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Doctor faxed lab results to me from A's Friday visit to the Doctor. Hadn't been to see doctor since last fall. With drinking more and sober less these past number of months expected bloodwork to look worse but actually looks pretty much the same. Believe it or not actually somewhat disappointed had hoped it would show negative results of A's drinking now instead he can use it to say he is fine. Although doctor did tell him that lab results can be misleading and liver failure can just progress/show up quickly whereby damage is happening now but results haven't caught up yet. Am sure he will forget doctor told him this though.
Supposedly A sobering at home today. He had me pour out the six pack that was left this morning before I went to work. Guess just will have to wait and see.
Hi.... I always wanted my A to get a bad checkup. I also wanted him to get a DUI. Or land in the ditch, but be OK. I always wanted something to happen to make him 'see'. It is usually the most 'unusual' things that brings the alcohol problem into light when he does come to 'see'----AND it's outta my hands and in his Higher Power's.
Well, just so happens he has sobered up twice....once in 1986 (had 10 yrs. sobriety) drank again, quit again, and Guess What? Nothing is ever wrong with HIM.........He comes out smelling like a rose. ME? I have Mood Disorders to deal with since 1986. So, in this case.....I have to watch out for me and me FIRST.
These were and still are my favorite prayers!
God Bless Him, God Keep Him, But God SAVE ME.
Keep Him Warm, Keep Him Safe, But Keep Me on TOP (of what I need to do to take care of ME!)
{My husband's disease has been more harmful to me, than to him) Hope this Helps.
hmmm, well my thought was, how come YOU had to pour it out?
Wait and see? I relate. But no longer care. Even when I was still having him come stay once in awhile I just did not keep score anymore. His aism is NOT my problem. Whether he uses or goes to AA relapses whatever, just does not matter to me.
I know it can all change in a New York second. For me I just loved him or not however he was, no expectations. I know someone told me I was shallow and cold about this. Whatever.
I would rather be loved for who i am no matter what. Like we love our children and our parents uno?
Last May my ah had bloodwork - his ast was 413 (normal high is 40) and his cholesterol was 475. The doc said if he didn't quit drinking he would be dead in 5 years of either a heart attack or alcoholic liver disease. When we got home he said "She's just trying to scare me."
Hope this Helps.