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Hello everyone, My name is Vega. I hope that it is okay that I am making a thread about myself and Why I am here. I am not exactly sure how things work around here but I figured this would be the best way to jump right into it.
my boyfriend, of almost 2 years has a drug problem and is now living in a halfway house. I know this support group is based around AA but I don't know where else to look for help. I figured that even though his drug of choice isn't alcohol, I would share some similar experiences with the people here.
Although I love my boyfriend very much, we have had our share of problems almost right from the start and most of them seem to have a lot to do with his depression and use of drugs. I want the best for him and it can be very difficult for me to deal with him and what he is going through.
I am very happy that he has finnally gone to rehab and is now in a halfway house, however he is still struggling with his steps and had a relapse a few days ago. I don't have many people to discuss this with and it is becoming very difficult for me to handle alone.
Welcome to MIP! You are in the right place. You are not alone. There are meetings in the chatroom twice daily. Keep coming back! You are beginning your recovery from the disease. It affects the whole family. Step 1...I am powerless over drugs and my life has become unmanageable.
Welcome to MIP, so glad you are here. You are in the right place.
Addiction is addiction. Here I call my husband my "A". Many here know that the "A" does not stand for alcoholic, but addict. My husband will use anything to alter his state of mind, but his last choice is alcohol.
Alcoholism is a family disease. All the crazy stuff we do to try to control their addictions is part of that family disease. We come here to talk with people who have been in our shoes before, to work on ourselves, and to offer ESH (experience, strength, and hope) to eachother.
I remember when I first walked into my first alanon meeting. The welcome and loved I received have yet to matched anywhere else, except in other alanon meetings. The most comforting thing I heard was the 3 C's:
1) I didn't cause his using.
2) I can't control his using.
3) I can't cure his using.
Since I thought I caused it, I tried to control it, and I did everything possible to stop his using, that was the message I needed to hear. That, and that if I committed myself to alanon, that I could get better.
Keep coming back. Like I said the love you will find in alanon is such a gift. The understanding you will find helps with the lonliness. And the peace you can find is yours for the taking.
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"Today's problems can not be solved if we still think the way we did when we created them" -Albert Einstein
