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cloudspeed · Newbie

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Andrea12 · ~*Service Worker*~

cloudspeed,

Welcome to MIP, what a fantastic place to be. Please try and join the meetings here they are pretty good: 9:0am eastern and 9:00pm.

I have met so many fantastic people here, we are all sharing in the same kind of pain of alcoholism.

So very nice to meet you....

Andrea

Dolphin123 · ~*Service Worker*~

((((((((((((cloudspeed))))))))))))))),

So glad you found us. You are in the right place.

One of the things that I really love about this program is that we don't give advice here. You just need to listen to yourself, because only you know what is right for you.

Keep coming back.

Much Love,

jennneeefffurrr · Senior Member

Oh honey...here is my advice

RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I would love to send you a message filled with sunshine and daisies, but, I believe in rigorious honesty. I was told it is one of my more endearing charachter traits.

My A (nearly) ruined my sanity, self esteem, dignity & ambition to do simple things like get dressed and go to work. My heart is broken, I am living in a minute to minute realm of reality, I miss him SO much - I miss the man who told me things like "I dont love you in a sexual way." or "You just dont turn me on anymore." then the next day "Oh Jennifer, you are so cute, I DO LOVE YOU!" The man who ignored my phone calls because he was with his buddies in a bar or one of their houses getting plastered, the man who when he DID answer my calls or bother to call me, made me a JOKE in front of his friends, laughed at my desperation for him my love for him and my need to be with him, the man who couldnt get a hard on most of the time because his body is so ate up from the alcoholism and when he did he could not climax OR even perform because the disease has ravaged his 32 year old body...rock hard ARMY body, still has it after 9 years out of the service, and it is destroyed. The man who swore to love me and take care of me forever. The man who I have loved for a decade is GONE and I am left confused and disappointed BUT at least I am not involved with an active A today, and THAT honey, is something I CAN live with and maintain my sanity and dignity.

AGAIN - IF I DID NOT SAY IT PLAINLY ENOUGH!!!!! RUN and dont look back.

WHY would you WANT to maybe, possibly, probably involve yourself with this nightmare again!??!?

RUN

Jen

nycbt · ~*Service Worker*~

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand.

World Service Organization Website –

WWW.al-anon.alateen.org

Phone number is 1-888-425-2666

Alanon meetings 800-351-9996

Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666

Alanon meeting info. 800-433-7266 AA info.

Chat room is open 24/7 there here the link to www.mipchat.net or http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

Here are some things that have helped me since in the program.

Go face to face meeting & online meeting.
post on the board here on the site. I have gotten a lot of good feed back.

· Set support system. people do not judge. You need someone who can go for coffee on a bad day, or pick up a phone and call when in trouble. The support is what is important when you first this program.

Have a sponsor. Someone work one on one with you.

You don’t have to do this the minute u come to the program but I suggest that u do it when u can. It help.

Meeting schedule: meetings are in here and run approximately 90 minutes from: Monday-Friday, 9 am and 9 pm EST, Saturday: 10 am and 9 pm EST, Sunday: 10 am and 7 pm EST. Topics are selected by participants at meeting time. UK +5 hours, central -1 hour, mountain -2 hours, pacific -3 hours. Open chat all other times.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.