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This Friday's reading discusses how in Al-Anon developing the ability to be honest with one self while working the program

can be key to caring for ourselves and creating a more closer and spiritual connection to our Higher Power. 

When we have that more open and trusting relationship with our Higher Power we have a greater degree of serenity and the

ability to exact the change we are seeking in our otherwise anxious lives. 

The reading suggests that when we are truthful with ourselves about our attitudes and what drives our motivations everyday

and especially while working the steps, we can grow more humble and it becomes easier to "Let go and Let God" take over

the aspects of our lives that are outside of our control.

 

 

Todays reminder:  "I know that honesty is an essential part of the Twelve Steps."  "I am willing to be more honest with

myself today."  

 

Todays Quote:  "Where is there dignity unless there is honesty?"  ~ Marcus Tullius Cicero

 

Forgiveness, for me, played a big role in honestly working the Twelve Steps. As I navigated each step I found that in order to

be honest I had to really look at the reasons, motivations, reactions and results of each of the Step topics.  If I approached

each Step as though it were a finger pointing exercise then I would have found it very difficult to be clear headed enough to

be honest, so forgiveness for my self and the alcoholic in my life was an important initial approach to each step.  Asking my

HP for guidance was really important as well for me to be able to reap any benefit and humility was the reward.

It all takes time and patience.  smile   I believe this program is worth its weight in gold!!

What are your thoughts?

TGIF!!



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Thanks Debbie for your service and great share. For many years, long before program, I tried to be an honest person. But I had trouble see the effects that alcoholism had done to me. I think that was more a case of denial, shame, and shock. Doing the Steps 2x with my sponsor, and a couple of Step 4's as needed, helped me to honestly see myself. I'm a very grateful member.

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Lovely shares Lyne and Tiredtonite thank you {{HUGS}}.

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Thanks Deb, and all above for your ESH on a great topic.

Honesty is huge...early in my Alanon journey, I remember reading the page highlighting a person who could perform the same actions with very different intent. As the author of my actions, I am the only one who knows the latter. For my spiritual growth, honesty is required for me to drill down to assess the why, determine if my intent is to control, and whether I develop spiritually.

Grateful for the reminders

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Thank you Paul for your ESH.

I find the same as well, when I research my motive(s), it determines my actions/reactions!

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Good morning

Recently there was not much drama going on with all the A's in my life for like a week straight. I mean there def was drama but only about 3 major incidents. I was kinda surprised and shocked over the impact it had on me,in a way I sure wasn't expecting because I have always complained about the constant chaos and drama. I was so unhappy and emotional and didn't know what to do with myself.

When I really thought about it trying to figure out why I was so miserable I realized that as long as I stay focused on everyone else I don't have to face myself. Just typing that out makes me feel like I want to cry because it was such a powerful,moving,life changing epiphany for me. I have read about it ,have talked about it,thought about it, I have even written about it before but that was the first time I have actually FELT it with every fiber of my being.

It has made me become more real and honest with myself than I have ever been in my life. Not just with all of my shortcomings but with all the good aspects of myself and life as well.

Have a good night





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Very profound SunnyFrog, you have opened my eyes as well, thank you for your heart felt share!!

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