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Post Info TOPIC: C2C for May 05, 2023 The Concept of Humility

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C2C for May 05, 2023 The Concept of Humility

We learn in Al-Anon that humility has nothing to do with being a door mat or placing other's needs/wants before our own.

Humility has more to do with Step One, which states, "We admitted we were powerless over alcoholthat our lives had

become unmanageable."In Step One we come to realize that we need to turn what we cannot control over to our Higher

Power because Step One suggests to us that to be humble enough to admit our powerlessness will give us the freedom

to start on the road to our own recovery. We learn that we can attain some serenity/happiness while we work on our own

lives. If we are constantly trying to change another, which is not our place, we lose sight of who we are, not to mention

the anxiety and fear that we sometimes experience in varying degrees. Humility is needed to start the process of regaining

our lives when living and dealing with alcoholism.

Todays reminder: "Part of learning humility is learning to contribute to my own well being." "Today I will do something

loving for myself that I'd normally do for someone else."

Todays Quote: 'We cannot tell what may happen to us in the strange medley of life.' 'But we can decide what happens in

us how we can take it, what we do with it and that is what really counts in the end." ~ Joseph Fort Newton

I was raised to be quite a door mat, thinking that was the way I should always be!! Was I surprised to learn, especially in an

alcoholic home, that I was doing it all wrong, no wonder I was so unhappy.

When I first came into my As life I often wondered why his mother and siblings were snickering amongst themselves whenever I

was in their company. They must have been thinking, boy is she in for a rude awakening!! It took me about 10 years into this 20

year marriage to find Al-Anon and am so grateful because I was a literal emotional wreck. Step One was a life changer for me.

How has Step One changed your life?

TGIF MIP Family!!


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~unknown

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Debbie thank you so much for your service and ESH. Whenever I hear the word "humility," I think of Betty's teaching that humility=quietness of heart, which is in a reading in C2C. I think it sums up what today's reading says--if we are not a door mat or trying to force solutions, we will feel quiet in our heart. Step 1 is the beginning for many of us, although it took awhile for me to warm up to the Steps. Without Step 1 there wouldn't be any others--admitting my powerless over alcohol, etc., begins the healing.



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Thanks Debbie for your service/ESH and all shares. I agree that Step 1 has been life changing by carving a path to healing. It's humbling to admit I constantly have to go back to Step 1 to get into the solution. I am grateful for the willingness to learn and relearn without feeling helpless and ashamed. Have a pleasant weekend.

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