The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This writer reflects upon lacking consistency with an alcoholic parent in the family. You could never tell how that person would react when drinking, there was no pattern to moods, and you could not depend on parents for anything. This writer tried to stay to themself, walked on eggshells, and lost faith in a Higher Power. The writer's sponsor was instrumental in restoring faith that you can depend on certain people, and that one's Higher Power is always there.
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The inconsistency for me came from my spouse, but almost all the above circumstances applied. I never knew what to expect, moods could change on a dime, and I withdrew from friends and family. It seemed like the marriage I had disappeared and a new, not good one emerged. My early contact with alanon came from MIP and shortly thereafter, a wonderful sponsor. She restored my faith in people, helped me establish a new and improved relationship with myself, and encouraged me to lean often on my HP. There certainly is hope and help here. :)
Growing up in an alcoholic home I definitely experienced the lack of consistency.I hated it but learned to adapt in very unhealthy ways.But I did rely on my HP to help me through it all,even as a child. I am not sure where I would be in life right now if I hadn't. Then of course I followed suit and married an A and experienced the same,it was all I ever knew in life and still always relied on my HP.
Now though,with the help of Alanon,instead of just relying on my HP there's a relationship going on and that makes a difference.
