Every person is different, in alanon and elsewhere.  Comparing ourselves to others is a defect of character and it causes self-dislike.  Each of us have special qualities and we should not compare ourselves to anyone else's recovery.  We are all doing the best we can.  We offer an important contribution to program just by showing up, participating, and being ourselves.

Reminder:  A sponsor or trusted alanon friend can help me see that I have value just as I am.

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I spent many unfortunate years being miserable, and part of that was always seeing myself as "less than."  Everyone else was smarter, prettier, happier, etc.  My first sponsor (Betty) had me write an asset about myself everyday, for a year or two.  Oh, what torture that was in the beginning. I could write volumes about my deficits....but she taught me to see the whole picture, strengths and weaknesses.  I will be forever grateful to have given up comparing myself to everyone else.  Now I just see where I've been, where I am now, and where I want to be.  God bless Betty.