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Post Info TOPIC: C2C January 27, 2023 - Ironing out those rough spots!!


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C2C January 27, 2023 - Ironing out those rough spots!!


The author of today's C2C reading suggests that one cannot make changes for a multitude of issues, in one day.

That sometimes we find our selves so troubled over a small issue when in fact that small issue is just the straw

that broke the camel's back. Talking it out with an Al-Anon member or sponsor can help level our thoughts out

and give us the opportunity to work on one issue at a time, one day at a time (or for as long or short as needed!).

Todays Reminder: "Why do I allow myself to suffer, to blow small things out of proportion?" "I can break a

situation down to a more manageable size by taking it one day at a time."

Todays Quote: "The whole purpose of Al-Anon is to help us iron out the rough spots in our living, and that

can be done only one day at a time." ~ One Day at a Time in Al-Anon

This is so true for me and am so grateful that Al-Anon has showed me a better way to live a more reasonable

and mentally healthy approach to understanding my anxiety. Living with an active drinker is very challenging

and slowly, one day at a time, I have learned how my triggers and expectations play a role in the chaos that

causes all those everyday confrontations and concerns to snow ball until I think I can not take it anymore with

one more little occurrence is all it takes.

TGIF MIP Family!! {{HUGS}}



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Debbie



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Good morning

I have learned that when something insignificant,like the lid not being on the toothpaste,is blown out of proportion it means there are other,major things going on that need to be addressed. While at the time it may feel/seem like it's actually the toothpaste it's not. When I take a look at what's really going on then I can find ways to work through whatever it is. And if it's something that can't be resolved or changed right away then I need to use coping skills/this program to get through it.

I honestly thought not living with an A anymore would instantly transform my life. Well, I guess it actually did transform it in many different ways but it didn't transform me into an instantly rational,sane person. That's going to take a lifetime of work. But it can only be done one day at a time.

Have a good day

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Thanks DM for your service and to you and Sunnyfrog for your shares. To "live this day only," is enough for me. Grateful to practice Step 11 one day at a time, sometimes one hour at a time even one minute at a time. Working Step 11, I'm no as easily overwhelmed when met with multiple challenges. My best progress has come from admitting I can't do it alone, don't have all the answers and asking my hp and others for help. Some rewards of asking for help have been that it's created a "loving interchange" between myself and my higher power, opened my mind to soliciting and trusting people's skills and talents rather than just my own. It's gives me opportunities to learn and share that I would otherwise not have. Grateful to have progressed from human doing to human just being ;)



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Happy Friday! Thank you Debbie for your service and all shares. For me, the little thing was being asked what's for lunch, dinner the minute I entered the house. First I would let out a big sigh followed by a sarcastic remark. I would prepare the meal of choice for my master making sure he knew this was a great hardship. I realized over time I resented doing something he could have done for himself and my attitude easily turned a simple request into grounds for divorce. First I gave up the sigh and sarcasm. Then I asked that in future, wait until I've taken a breather before making meal requests. Sometimes he'll text me to pick up something so I don't have to bother with cooking (yay) It has taught me to set clear boundaries on what works best for me in other areas and has improved my communication skills...sigh...of relief (lol)

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C2C January 27, 2023 - Ironing out those rough spots!!


Thanks Debbie for your service and all the ESH above. Yes, change takes time, and time takes time. That's why one day at a time, one hour at a time, and one minute at a time, all make sense to me and provide me with help changing my attitude. Attitude and acceptance are also important. Grateful member always.

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