The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
This page points to the choice we have when faced with someone's differing opinion: dig in and defend our view or use it as a great reminder that there are endless ways to perceive things.
Sometimes it can be hard to grasp how someone holds their view. I don't need to take this personally, however, or see them as wrong and expend resources trying to prove that. I can respect their right to see it as they choose.
Reminder: I don't need to invalidate other's opinion for mine to be valid. Today I will others' right to think differently.
"Think for yourself and let others enjoy the privilege of doing so too." Voltaire ---------------- This is a top 5 Need to Work topic for me. I hold opinions on everything, many quite strong and built by investment of time, cognitive and emotional resources.
I need this reminder often that the view I hold of anything is determined by the value I place on the surrounding variables. Other people have different orientation and relationships to those variables...it's inevitable, it's their right, and it's ok. I don't have to agree, but to maintain serenity I must live and let live.
Grateful for the reminders
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Thanks Paul for your service and share. Especially in these times, there are so many things to have strong feelings about. Besides addiction, we have politics, covid, and I could make a very long list of controversial topics. I think live and let live is the way to go, with a side of let go and let God. :)
