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Post Info TOPIC: C2C, Monday, 12/26, resigning from the doormat club

~*Service Worker*~

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C2C, Monday, 12/26, resigning from the doormat club

The member says if you don't want to be a doormat, you have to get up off the floor.  The member accepted a lot of unacceptable behavior, but took it and came back for more.  The member felt like a victim but was actually a volunteer.  Now they see that they have choices, they are not helpless, and feeling like a victim can be a red flag:  warning, I am participating in something that is not in my best interest.  Stop blaming others and look to my own involvement.  That's how you can change.


I was thrilled to come across this reading for 12/26.  Early in program I read a post about "resigning from the doormat club," but I never knew where it came from.  The phrase just stuck in my head because that's how I used to be:  poor me, people are hurting me.  Now I know how to get off the track when I see the train coming!  Alanon has taught me so many important life skills that I rarely feel like a victim anymore.  When the sledgehammer is coming down, I try to get out of the way.  Grateful member always.



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Great reading reminder for the New Year Lyne! Thank you for your service and ESH.

Such a way to wonderful way to remember, to get off the tracks when you sense that feeling of "poor me coming" that it is time

to say enough and step out of the way!!


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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