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Starting over again.....Again


I moved to a new State with my youngest daughter and left my husband since after a few years of begging him to treat her in a loving manner and his refusal, I did what was right for her mental health. He had gone as far as to laugh when she was feeling suicidal when she couldn't understand why her birth father an alcoholic couldn't love her enough to quit drinking and step up as a dad. He said she was faking it for attention and my answer was even if that was the case then give her some love and attention and he just laughed.  He failed us and now I've moved a State away near two of my brothers for a fresh start. I bought a house and started a new job. I felt so good and strong getting here, now that I am here, I am exhausted and angry. After having to move in with assistance but setting everything up alone I'm just not in a good place! My daughter started high school and is doing better than in her last school and has family, cousin support here which is awesome. I'm in a huge funk and I am again merely surviving, and I hate it. I do not transition well; I am having a hard time doing anything extra and just want to shut down. When I left my first husband I went through this transition and came out the other side working out and walking and doing so well, dug into my al-anon books and meetings and felt so strong. This time I am older and just more exhausted than ever before, so angry at my husband and myself for allowing all the cycles of old coming back, even though isn't an alcoholic the rest was there. I allowed myself to be devalued and gaslighted, but even worse for him to eat away at my daughter's self-worth/esteem all while treating his daughters' so well! I am just so disgusted at this point and just needed to vent! Sending you all so much love and support on your journey's!



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{{Breakingfree}} so sorry that you are feeling exhausted. Give yourself a huge pat on the back

for making such large and strenuous decisions for the sake of your daughter!!! Be proud of what

you have accomplished and plan to do for yours and your daughters future!!! {{HUGS}} I have

faith that like before, you will come out the other side strong!!! Keep coming back to talk with us.

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Debbie



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((Breakingfree))) Change is hard. Wishing you the all the best as you enter this new chapter in your life. Keep coming back.  TT



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I recognise that feeling of being older and more exhausted very well. But you already showed yourself how you respond to this kind of challenge once before so you know what you are capable of! Hugs and support to you and to your daughter. I'm sorry it's so rough for you guys again.

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Breakingfree--Look at your MIP name--it's exactly what you did, and more than once. Please be kind to yourself--you've accomplished something fantastic. Moving, new job, etc., are all life stressors. I'm older and don't have the spunk I once had. Give yourself credit for what you have done. Someone on MIP once said:

WHEN YOU ARE GOING THROUGH HELL, KEEP GOING!

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Lyne



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Thanks for all the support and coming here and just reading has helped me a lot! Sending you all much love and support on your journey's!

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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree

Al-Anon/Alateen Family Group Headquarters, Inc. 800-344-2666

" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."

"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."

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