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Post Info TOPIC: C2C – September 02, 2022


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C2C – September 02, 2022


Todays reading (a bit short and sweet today) talks to us about the grief caused by the damage

and loss of loved ones/friends due to the disease of alcoholism.

The reading goes on to say that part of dealing with that grief is admitting to oneself how the

effects of alcoholism changed their life and accept that moving on to a life filled with gratefulness,

although not easy, is what we should strive for.

Al-Anon steps and tools, belonging to this group and reading everyday Al-Anon literature has

helped me to slowly reach that goal of living a life of gratefulness.

Has Al-Anon helped you in that way as well?



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Thanks Debbie.
It definitely has. In the first place it helped me distance and protect from harmful situations and behaviour, but it also helped me appreciate those experiences for the growth opportunities they gave me, the positive experiences that were mixed in with the bad, and it also helps me help others. I'm not one of those people that insists that every bad thing that happens is a blessing but al-anon has taught me to find the positives instead of only seeing the negatives and living life full of resentment and regret and I guess the opposite of that is gratitude!

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Thanks Debbie for your service and for all above ESH. One of the problems of alcoholism I live with is the anticipation that my A is going to have a shortened life due to food and alcohol addiction. I guess it's anticipatory loss that I have been dealing with for years. Alanon helps me with many parts of this problem, like I no longer try to force solutions, I pray every day to have compassion, and yes, I am able to feel gratitude about many areas of my life, in spite of many painful situations. Prior to program, I was stuck in anger, resentment, and despair. I'm grateful for many positive changes on my end.

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Thank you Debb and to all for the shares. I am very grateful for Al-anon and for the validation of my feelings by others who understand. I occasionally will go down the grief road to the origins of what got me here but not nearly as often as I once had. It was important to allow myself to feel those feelings to feel, deal and heal. But I have tried to spend more time working Al-anon's welcome which tells me that I can be happy whether the alcoholic is still drinking or not. Rather than looking at missed opportunities of all kinds prior, I try to accept that some things from my past are unchangeable but my present is bright beautiful palette of empowerment choices that are enhanced by Al-anon recovery. Every day I have the power to make my own choices. Beginning my day, I see my day  through hopeful eyes. I choose to see it as a fresh canvas that will be filled with life affirming experiences, new things to learn with the guidance of a loving higher power. Are there times when I miss others who for one reason or another are no longer in my life? Of course. Thankfully, as a person in recovery I have a family of choice who can help to fill that void, who often are experiencing these feelings as well. We can talk it out, have these feelings affirmed and then focus on giving ourselves the same unconditional love received by our hp. The hollow "alone" or "terminally unique" feeling needn't hang on for very long if I choose to allow myself to be vulnerable with another person in program but more importantly to share it with my higher power, feel it, surrender it and pray for my loving hp's will for me in the moment. This practice of refocusing has helped to restore my serenity and show up in the present for what my higher power has in store for me. Some days this is easier than others but I do my best to readjust and neither get lost ruminating, over thinking, staring too long at my past nor projecting too far into the future. Al-anon has shown me that I can make a conscious choice to be grateful for today to stay fully present in the day.



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Thank you for all shares. MIP dug me out of a pit of despair and self pity. The tools in Al-Anon gave me stability during the pandemic, and basic step work gave me courage to improve myself. Recently I was in a strange space, however, MIP kept the light on. I would welcome postings on slogans . Sometimes I feel like I'm in kindergarten and slogans are all I can manage. :)

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RE: C2C – September 02, 2022


Just love hearing from you all!! Thank you YKM, Lyne, TT and Daffodils {{HUGS}} to everyone.

I will try to remember to place a slogan after each reading I do.   smile

 

 

 



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does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown

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