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Post Info TOPIC: 5/10/22 C2C Telling My Story, not Ours

~*Service Worker*~

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5/10/22 C2C Telling My Story, not Ours

Today's writer is grateful that the Alanon fellowship that shares much in common, understands many of the problems and challenges faced, yet no one speaks for everyone in the group about "our" collective experience. We can tell our own story, but no one else's.

Each brings something unique to the program in terms of challenges, and then just as unique experience, strength and hope that helped them heal. We can take what we like as it fits our need or capacity at the time and leave the rest for later, or altogether.

It makes sense that in Alanon we avoid phrases that suggest we know what others experience (This is a problem for 'us', 'We' tend to do that). Sharing is an opportunity to tell our own story, which is all we can know.

Reminder -'Today I will speak for myself, supported by those who understand like few others can'

"Our recover is reflected in our ability to tell our own story - not that of an alcoholic or another Alanon or Alateen member." - Why Anonymity in AlAnon?
Alanon suggests that I keep the focus on myself in recovery, not the alcoholic or others in the fellowship. This was a completely new concept for me, but one that simplified my life incredibly and gave me a glimpse of how serenity could be possible. 

When I focus only on the things I can control, that are in my own, small circle of influence, my responsibilities shrink, my freedom and options increase. This page reminds me to keep my focus on my own recovery and not speak for, or be overly concerned with the activity of others. 

Grateful for the reminders




"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 

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Thank you so much Paul for your service and today's reading and your ESH.

I so totally agree with you, that my personal freedom, as well as serenity, are greatly increased when I learned to focus

on my own recovery and to mind my own business concerning the drinker and other's around me. I consider my service

in Al-Anon (when needed) to be a gift and an honor and forcing my opinions is indeed, not my responsibility. I can

only offer my ESH in a graceful manner.


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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Thanks Paul for your service and above ESH. The word "freedom" means a lot to me as I relate to this concept of focusing on myself, stop trying to force solutions upon others, and therefore freeing myself from many burdens I carried for years. This practice often leads me to peace and happiness, and an easiness that allows me to laugh. Grateful member.



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