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Post Info TOPIC: C2C , Monday, 5/9, can you love yourself?

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C2C , Monday, 5/9, can you love yourself?

The writer was taken aback when they received a compliment.  They felt discomfort, and couldn't imagine there might be something nice about themself.  The writer realized how feelings of self-worth had sunken while living with an alcoholic, and the sponsor began to work on this.  The writer was able to begin liking themself and see that there were many qualities worthy of compliments!  One way to learn to love oneself is to accept the love of others.


This reading reminded me of many years that I felt so low about myself, that any compliment embarrassed me.  And I did make very slow progress over the years, but like the writer it was my sponsor who jump-started me looking at my assets.  At first it was pain-staking, but eventually it got easier to find something, no matter how small.  I'd spent years glaring at my flaws.  Being able to see the good along with the challenges balanced things out.  I am able to feel love for myself at this point even though I will never be perfect, and always need improvement in some areas.  But there is no reason not to acknowledge what is good in me, just because others were not able to see it.  



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Thanks Lyne for the reading and your share. I remember feeling as you did when I first came to Al-anon. So very thankful for my first sponsor who loved me until I could love myself and helped me to learn to love myself. There are still people, places, things that trigger insecurities but I try to refocus and remind myself that feelings aren't facts. No one can MAKE ME feel inferior without MY consent. ;) TT


Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.

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Thank you Lyne, as well, for your service and today's reading and reminders.

I so agree with you Lyne and TT, that Al-Anon and the membership in my life have helped me to feel

more compassion for myself!! I never realized how much my impatience and lack of confidence

contributed to my insecurities and anxieties. Living with an active drinker was difficult, but over

the past few years I feel light years away from those awful days of hurt. {{HUGS}}


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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Good morning

I actually do love myself and don't beat myself up all the time like in the past. Most of the time I feel pretty good about myself.

My biggest thing though,is the hurt I feel when the A in my life doesn't see the good in me and voices it. That can take me straight down,not because I believe the things said but because that's what they think of me. I need to learn to let that stuff bounce off me and not let it get to me,but it can be difficult.

Have a good day

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