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Alcoholism: The Progressive Disease


  There is a very helpful chart to educate yourself on alcoholism.  It's in the hands of alcoholism centers, counselors.   It's what they first handed me when I went to a counseling center, and they said, "you are not going crazy....your husband has a drinking problem" (and that was 1986)  ...so I hand it to you.....


Go to www.altavista.com   and type in Jellinek Chart.   I believe the First and Third returns are best. 



-- Edited by wallsal55 at 15:47, 2006-04-28

-- Edited by wallsal55 at 15:50, 2006-04-28

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Hi Wallsal!  Yes, I've seen that chart before--or something very much like it--in one of the books I read early on in my recovery.  I think there's a corresponding chart for the progression and recovery of co-alcoholism, too.  If I can track it down, I'll post the link here.


It's vey helpful in learning about the stages of the disease, theirs and ours.  And very hopeful in seeing the stages of recovery!


It was the very specific nature of both the disease and the recovery that helped me to embrace the 12-step program!  At last, it seemed, somebody knew about this stuff, and had names for it!  A language.  Phew!   What a liberation from the silence I was locked under!


Thanks for the info!


~seachange



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Wallsal, Interesting. I read the stages. My hubby (A) seems to be somwhere in the mid-late stage. Hard to specify. He has some of the symptoms but not all. He started drinking early, 13-14 I think is what he told me. I'm sure it wasn't continous, he played high school football. I have no clue, didn't know him then. I have never felt responsible for his drinking, I told him straight out, he cannot even dream of blaming me, I didn't know him then! How can I possibly be responsibe for someone's problems when I didn't know that person even existed. lol.


So the "cause" part of the 3 c's I never felt. Also, I have NEVER taken the blame because I now that there is nothing I did that made him get drunk, I tell him you drink because your an alcoholic! Not due to something I did, said, didn't do, didn't say, ect.


He is almost 49 yrs old. So, that's a long time to be drinking. He hasn't gone without for any length of time, not since I've knowen him (17 yrs.)


I noticed he gets real CRANKY his 3rd day without a beer. He won't eat when he drinks. He has lost weight. Lately he has been working Mon., Tues., Thurs. & Fri. (drives truck!!) He gets drunk EVERY Wednes., Sat. & Sun. He is a slob, makes messes all over the yard, gets angry with me when I wantr it cleaned up, blames everyone else, including my horses for the mess! lol.


He does hold down a job, always has. But he hates responsibility. I noticed his drinking escalated when we bouth this house, 1996. He also found drinking buddies that live close by, one next door!  Any way, I have been reading as much as I can about the disease. I have noticed he is getting worse. He claims he drinks less then he used to, when that was, he can't say.


Thank you for the link.


Debbie


 



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