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Sometimes it gets different before it gets better but it does! I am living proof that the sun always rises after the dawn. It is memorial day Friday today & I already put some special things on my stepdad's grave & it felt pretty good. Of course it is sad & I cried. His wife my mom is laid to rest above him and of course I had a moment w mom. But I feel great today ! My prayers are being answered one by one. Sometimes quicky sometimes slowly but always right on time.
May you all find peace this weekend. And may you always feel blessed & I hope I am a blessing to you that only our higher power can do.
Kathleen
(((Kathleen))) - good to see you (as always). How lovely that you've been to visit and honor those who've passed. You are a blessing to my journey and I fully agree - it does get better. Thanks for stopping by and reminding us accordingly!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Kathleen for the reminder that the sun always shines. And you are right, sometimes it gets "different" before it gets better. I think it is important for me to hear and understand this, as sometimes I get frustrated with the one step forward, two steps back!
Glad you were able to share some memories at the graves of your parents, and honor them.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
I am so glad that you feel at peace about your parents death
My.mother and father died some years ago. I.dd not have the skills to deal with either death
When My.mother died I was with tgevqualifuer. He was the most unsupportive person I have ever known. I think.he has been an addict so long it is impossible for him to.have feelings
He could affect them so well. At the beginning of our relationship he could act like a warm kind human being
He was the master of impressions
I did not know how to respond to my mother and father in death any more than I knew how to deal with them when they were alive. I think that is the same with many people
I have struggled tremendously with the death of my friend who committed suicide. The shock is still tangible
I went to one suicide survivors group. In may go to another in time. When I was in the grief group I was really taken with how open my colleagues were about their grief their candor was astonishing
Thank you so much for reminding me it is memorial day
I tend to forget what the holidays mean
I find isolating is one way to get through the holiday but maybe it is not such a great idea.
Thank you for reminding us joy is part of life too.
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Sweet share, Kathleen... 
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