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Debbie thanks for your service and thanks for the great share
It is all I can do to not feel overwhelmed and helpless over this crisis that I am facing right now or will soon be facing. But like you said keep it simple and easy does it is exactly what I am applying and also giving up the control and self-will over to my higher power is the hard part. Throughout my life it was either abuse from human beings or a life itself --Or it was abandonment by humans or by prayers on answered and here I am in probably the biggest test Ill have for a long long time and I have to just completely get out of the way and let the universe work on my situation and its tough. Every door I knock on, everything I try, nothing is budging it is like I am up against a great big cement wall so I have to let go. I have no other options but to let go and let the universe hopefully open another door for me that helps me take care of myself. Thanks for the great share
Rose - If I could help, I would. But you are deciding to become open to other possibilities. That is good. I hope your HP rewards you soon!
Enjoy this Thursday, MIP!
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thanks for your service Debb and all above ESH. Yes of course this reading makes sense to my program mind, and I fully understand about my attitude making a difference. Use of program tools and friends is also a must. I will admit one of the times that it is hardest for me to Let Go and Let God is when it comes to health. At the moment I continue to have worry about my brother and myself. I will persevere by leaning into program because I know it works when I'm able to work it, which relatively speaking is most of the time. Progress not perfection....
Good morning MIP. Happy Thursday to one and all. We are one area of our country that's got some major storms today so golf league was canceled. I am just glad they canceled before we all gathered - that was weighing on my mind, simply because I'm a bit tired of getting poured on!!!
It has taken me a lifetime and more to figure out that I can practice acceptance even when/though things are going way, way different than desired or projected. It's still not a natural 'go-to' mode for me - I have an innate desire to control outcomes. All that I know is that when I am able to stay present, do the next right thing, trust what is unfolding and try to just be open/willing, things just continue to work out.
I am grateful and remain grateful that I have choices every day how to spend my 'resources' - time, energy, etc. I am one who could waste my resources unknowingly BR (Before Recovery) trying to find solutions to problems or issues that weren't even mine. Today, I am better able to pause and stay in my own lane. I have continuous opportunities to practice this program and our tools and there's no lack of opportunities in life to learn from.
Make it a great day MIP! Find and keep your joy!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Good Morning Everyone. Thanks Debb-the daily and ESH packed a punch. I've been stressing over an invite my hubby accepted before checking with me. Our neighbours invited us to their cottage for a week this summer. I am satisfied with the casual hellos, exchanging baked goods at Christmas... I don't like to be beholden to people and got the eye roll when I said so. PNP inspired me to think of others. Rose, Lyne and her brother have far more pressing problems...why not use my energy to pray for them...As that thought came to mind a temporary solution popped up...we won't be fully vaccinated until the fall! It clearly is an esteem booster for hubby that "they" like us...and I can let HP work it out next summer. LOL Thanks for keeping road to peace and serenity smooth... Sending prayers for continued blessings to MIP family.
"Our perception of the problem is the problem". I am so grateful for that reminder today.
While going through trauma therapy my therapist would tell me that very often. Whether it was something from the past I was dealing with or something in the present he would remind me that it was all in my perception of things.
Love these daily readings,the shares and how helpful they are for me.
Thank you so much for your share. Acceptance is a hard one for me. I am either feast or famine. One week I have one days week which stretched into maybe 2 and a half the next over 6 days.
Accepting that I have to go with reality if pretty hard
Of course my issues now and my responsibilities are si much more manageable. Living with an alcoholoc/addict was one long emergency.
I have my own goals which do not seem to be moving at a fast enough pace
Meantime I am working on acceptance
I am glad that I have to to remind me of the need for acceptance
I learned early that i was expected to love the person, but not the problem. I have learned to love the various A's in my life, and everybody else, as well. But most of all to include myself in this list. I learned to say that I myself have problems and issues, but I, myself am not the problem. Thanks, Debb... ...
Dear Debbie, thank you for this post. To some degree I agree with the author but to some degree I do not I am facing the total loss of being able to support myself unless something miraculous happens I am facing just trying to live on Social Security which will barely pay the bills and maybe feed me but that is it I will not be able to care for myself anymore so I agree and disagree with the author I dont look at this as a challenge because it is killing me with the grief and the fear and the depression and despair but to cope with it I just Literally go one moment at a time and just try to stay in the present and try to stay with my breath and try to do my gratitude list which I make myself do throughout the day I thank my higher power for my literal saving of my life. When one cannot take care of herself anymore it is beyond a challenge it is a disaster and I am going to call it for what it is. This is not just some challenge. I was reading in the news about there are 1 million other Texans who are self-employed like me who are absolutely frozen with fear. One thing good is that my house I paid it off so I dont have a mortgage but I have repairs I have property taxes I have insurance so youre either paying rent or a mortgage or are you doing daily up key but no matter what, it is an expense and I can have absolutely nothing to go wrong. When unemployment is over with, I will be living on the least amount of money Ive ever tried to live on and I dont remember. I dont remember being in this bad of a condition but I just keep on keeping on with my gratitude list and a big thing for me is to get out of the way and let the creator of the universe work in my life. I have to stop obsessing and claiming gloom and doom and failing at life--I also notice I feel ashamed and I feel ashamed of myself that I cannot even support myself. And its not fair for me to feel shame when I have tried my best but I do feel shame so I literally have to send that back to the universe because it is not mine and it is not fair to feel that way so I do a lot of self talk telling myself--hey you did your best, and youre not alone, you did your best and now its time to get out of the way and let go literally 100% let go and let my higher power within me dry to me what I need to take care of me. I must still have a purpose in this life because my higher power has kept me going thus far so why not trust a little bit longer and this too shall pass but some things that happen are devastating and been not able to take care of oneself is one of the worst things I can imagine and I am facing that but I am going to give it non-resistance and I am going to be with my feelings of grief and sadness and I am going to keep doing my gratitude List over and over just flood the universe with gratitude and then get the hell out of the way give it non-resistance and let the universe dry to me what I need to take care of myself
Dear Debbie, with complex PTSD and GAD and attention deficit its quite difficult for me to work part time anywhere. Thats why I freelance because I can dictate my hours and I can rest when I need to rest which is more often as I age. I used to do that what you were talking about but things have changed since Ive aged. Im approaching my middle 70s and I noticed that mental exhaustion takes more out of me than it used to be so I am in a real quandary. HP has his work cut out because I literally need a miracle. I can only do mental exertion so much and at best may be a couple of mornings a week and that would be about it but I am more comfortable working on my own so I can dictate my own hours.
Anyway thanks for the share. My situation is quite changed this past couple of years as far as my longevity in the mental exertion department.
Debbie I am sure I must still have some purpose here in life because HP keeps me going so I just have to let all of this go and completely get out of the way so he can work in my life and I thought the original post was just dealing with difficulties not particularly with people or whatever I thought it was just dealing with difficulties. When I do a post, I just reply based on what the daily prompts me to think about and work on. I am living one day at a time. And basically my strategy is to just cast all of this burden onto my higher power and give gratefulness for the blessings I do have and just give thanks that I will be OK. Just say thank you higher power even though I dont see anything in sight thats what Ive been doing and it does work
I have had many people step up with acts of kindness and encouragement for me so as you said my HP is looking out for me I just have to keep putting my trust in that and not waver even when Im feeling the grief come and the fear come just keep casting the burdens and giving thanks to my HP for the resolution
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I learned early that i was expected to love the person, but not the problem. I have learned to love the various A's in my life, and everybody else, as well. But most of all to include myself in this list. I learned to say that I myself have problems and issues, but I, myself am not the problem. 
Thanks, Debb...