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DavidG


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aww Got inspired to do a little more. These days I have contact with sibs and cousins via facebook really.

Facebook gets it's fait bit of flak- but it does keep people connected. So decided to reach out to a brother.

He had a small business- in an industrial area of the city. Bu this landlord found out that he was sleeping

over there-on the couch and he got evicted. So he is now homeless.

We had a brother in Texas who passed three years ago. He was an illegal immigrant and had no health or 

retirement funding. When he died he was working as a courier for Amazon. If he had thought about it

he could have gotten a plane flight home and got some decent health care. But he stayed on. He died

on his doorstep with a catheter draining his thorax, and his gangrenous leg was wrapped in plastic.

This other brother- at least, is in NZ. What prompted my enquiry was the fact that he had made amends to me

over the last few years. I won't tell his story- but I suspect he was in a 12 Step group for a while.

He seemed to know the drill.

I am the oldest brother, and sib to the family.

So How do I respond. Our mum used to bring in all the lost animals- hens, kittens, puppies the lot. I 

always felt that we should extend the same compassion to people as well.

I went to my F2F meeting last night. Grown from 3 to 4 people. And it made me realise How shaken I was-

at the news about my brother. I was triggered a fair bit.

Almost shaking, too...

..This too shall pass...



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{{David}}, so sorry to hear about your siblings and loss of your brother from Texas.

Researching resource assistance/aid for your brother who is homeless maybe helpful.

Keeping in touch with him and maybe relaying those resources.

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David. Poor people do indeed get healthcare in the United States.
It is just not very good care. However county hospitals have t ol treat people
Sorry to hear of your brothers denise

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DavidG


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aww Thanks Debbs and Marisie- it is so obvious that I still need support- to attain balance...

     Beneath my benign appearance I still want to charge in there with the cavalry! So I

     took a deep breath. A few actually.  -Texted back and asked brother what contact he has

     with brother mark III and our cousin... ...not being snoopy- but showing family interest.



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That was a lot to read David, I'm sorry to hear all of that. It's understandable why you were triggered.

Sometimes I look up my siblings on Facebook but I don't contact them(they're not even on my friends lists). Sometimes I want to reach out to them or help them but instead I just love them from afar. I have one sibling that I Google his name every now and then because all of his mug shots pop up and at least I know he's still alive.

It's very hard for me and makes me sad but I know I have to keep my distance and focus on myself.

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I hear you David. Sorry about your brother...
I relate with the longing and anxiety at the same time to have news about my foo ... We have contact but very distant and formal.

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