The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
BACKGROUND: As happens more times than not, I return from my condo and re-enter my home with my A. The dog goes back and forth with me which adds fuel to the fire. I prepare myself on Saturdays using my program tools to enter the marital situation in neutral, and sometimes hopeful that we can have peace, and if lucky a smile or two and a laugh. My A is unable to move past and accept this situation, that largely is due to her persistent alcoholic behavior. I made the decision to buy my own place and live near my son half the week.
I came in yesterday afternoon, saw the face, heard the unhappy words, and again reminded myself there is no bread at the hardware store. I wrote to my sponsor last evening and in thinking through my situation, I was able to decide I needed a mantra for Sunday, today: ACCEPTANCE, DETACHMENT, PRACTICE. That should do it, dont you think so?
Lyne - perfect mantra for a Sunday! Heck, it's perfect for all day, every day! When I used to walk in my home not certain what would be facing me, my go to mantra often was Bless Them, Change Me. If they were rude, mean, loud, etc., I would actually repeat this over and over and over in my head and it did seem to help me stay neutral or positive vs. joining them in the low end of the pool.
Keep doing what you're doing - it looks awesome on you! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
At one time, I used Post-It notes with my mantra in areas that would remind me... like in my car. I was able to look at it and "gird my loins" before entering my home in which I wasn't sure what would greet me (or not).
You are taking care of you. Kudos!
Wishing you today!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Lyne, I love there is no bread at the hardware store and bless them change me is one of my favorites too.
My A was at it too today. Turning it over...
Hope you do something special for yourself today. ((((Hugs))))
Lyne, I love there is no bread at the hardware store and bless them change me is one of my favorites too.
My A was at it too today. Turning it over...
Hope you do something special for yourself today. ((((Hugs))))
today!