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My home relationship has improved markedly over the last 18 to 24 months.
Not quite where I want it- but getting fairly close... I am working part time. SO came home from work and found an element on on the stove. It had been like that since breakfast- so it must have been on very low.
She put some toasties in the oven...but I could tell she was not happy. She really hates me being online, even doing stuff that i am doing right now!
She was planning to go out swimming- and I switched the Tv channel which she just did not like.
I could tell she was cruising for a bruising. So things elevated into a head on head clash. thankfully a rare occasion these days.
So she slammed to door as she went out to swimming.
10 minutes later I got a phone call to turn the oven off.
It's so nice to know that I don't have to participate in every fight I'm invited too. Alanon has given me the perspective to be able to stand in my own truth and not get sucked into the game playing of others even though sometimes I fall down on that, it's always a good reminder to just others do them and stay out of the way. I got a reminder this week in dealing with my X.
Hugs :)
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
Under Covid 19 I permit myself to be frustrared and irrotared. I work hard not to show it outwardly . Yesterday my co worker called off on the same day two weeks in a row. I had brief tme where I told my colleagues how thar uoset me
Then I let it go. Lettimg go is only possible by the grace of al anon.
These are very trying tines. I think it is normal to have moments of irritation and fristration. How I.manage them is the key.
Being able to.manage them is something new.
These past few minths have been a roller coadtet fir me. Having moments of irritation is in some ways s respite from beng swamped with overwhelmimg problems and issues completely
I have bern recovering from post traumatic stress disorder for decades. Gettimg to a place that is mundane and normal is indeed an incredble achievement. The odds were certainly stacked against you doung thst so you beat themp by perseverance and patience .
Success is simetimes not a big milestone that is clearly quantifiable.
For me this is where I can tell if I am willing to work the program and if I really am doing the work. I check my language body and verbal and how I respond for outcomes. Does the situation end smoothly and quietly without on going anxiety or am I ready at the second, third, forth round. I do not like being disrespected word or behavior by the wife and if or when I can program myself using respect and self righteous behavior in order to control myself. (((hugs)))
My home relationship has improved markedly over the last 18 to 24 months.
