The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
It's what you learn after you know it all that counts. --John Wooden
"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second one that makes the quarrel." --W.A. Nance
Don't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it--immediately. --Stephen Covey
"Making prompt amends is the fresh air of each new day." --Sandra Little
A man who has committed a mistake and doesn't correct it is committing another mistake. --Confucius
"He who angers you conquers you." --Elizabeth Kenny
"Never answer an angry word with an angry word. It's the second one that makes the quarrel." --W.A. Nance
****Very hard to do when attacked, but I see that it only escalates..I am still learning the more softer boundary enforcement
Don't argue for other people's weaknesses. Don't argue for your own. When you make a mistake, admit it, correct it, and learn from it--immediately. --Stephen Covey
***** gotta LOVE the program...good ole steps 5,6,7, 8, and 9....I used to be so bad about admitting my mistakes, I geuss it is because I thought I WAS a mistake and it was a trigger to be wrong...I would hear his ugly voice saying "see I told you you were a F***up..." oh yea, but now I know that I cannot ever be mistake free....so now?? I own it, admit it, fix it, learn and turn from it....
"Making prompt amends is the fresh air of each new day." --Sandra Little
***** I think prompt amends de-escalates or even prevents fights and breakups in otherwise good relationships
as soon as I think I messed up, I think about it, work step 10 on it and if it is real...I did it...yea, take care of it and the one I hurt
A man who has committed a mistake and doesn't correct it is committing another mistake. --Confucius
***** yep...and the patterns go on and on and get deeper and deeper
"He who angers you conquers you." --Elizabeth Kenny
***** Well now when boss was rude and ugly to me, I got angry back, BUT I was NOT rude, NOT cruel like he was, I just set forth that what he did was unacceptable for me....I think anger is ok...it is a sign a boundary is needing to be set and enforced if breeched, but if I lose control of myself in my anger then I lose my power to the one who angered me.....the saying "do not SIN in your anger" it does not say "do not get angry" it just says "don't sin in your anger" so anger, I figure, is OK...it can be a good warning that I need to take care of me, but "take them out" with CLASS!!!! I will not lose my dignity over anothers ugliness towards me....
I got this great test again, today from the off. mgr...She told me i handed him is a** with a LOT of class...I had to laugh...she was 100% supportive of me...Said he was crass to do what he did and she LOVED the way I put him in his place and I was not mean.....I don't think a classy lady like she is would have been so supportive of me if I had traded ugly for ugly....nope..she would not have said a word to me....
