Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

No Good Topic Title Comes to Mind

JerryF · ~*Service Worker*~

Sis HP knows the feelings and needs...I will add my prayers to yours and those of others including my personal language with my father. ((((Hugs and Love)))) smile

DavidG · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((((((((((((((((((( IAm ))))))))))))))))))))))))

Prayers your way, IAm...

Enigmatic · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey IAH,

That is truly a heartbreaking situation, fraught with strong emotion along a number of lines...thank you for sharing what you are facing. Please know that you and your family are in my heart, thoughts and prayers

Freetime · ~*Service Worker*~

IAH, my thoughts are with you and your family.

Temple · ~*Service Worker*~

Oh I am so, so sorrry

Of course prayers.

Temple

PosiesandPuppies · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((Iamhere))))))

I am hearing this more and more. The heartache of leaving your loved one at the door knowing you may never see them again is just gut-wrenching.
I know that many nurses are helping loved ones connect through their phones - even after the patient is put on ventilation. God bless those nurses and doctors!

I will add her (and you and your dad) to my prayer list.

2HP · Senior Member

(((((((prayers))))))) for mom and all involved in her care

Bo · ~*Service Worker*~

My warmest thoughts, and prayers, are with your mom, you, and your family.

a4l · ~*Service Worker*~

Loving prayers of comfort for all of you Iamhere. That's a very difficult situation my friend and empathy for it at this time is undoubtedly the go to response for any involved. Take good good care.

TrishaNorth44 · Member

So sorry Iamhere. Sending thoughts and prayers for healing.

tiredtonite · Veteran Member

When I saw your subject line I thought you were posting the daily reading and neglected to open it right away. Then, I saw the number of responses and my curiosity was peaked. I'm so glad I opened this post.

I'm so sorry to read this news about your parents. Your parents, you and all who love them are in my prayers. Prayers for our capable and compassionate healthcare workers who are caring for her and others.

(((iam))))) TT

-- Edited by tiredtonite on Sunday 5th of April 2020 09:31:54 PM

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

big hugs,

Hope all is well and you can update soon. not being able to be with loved ones in the hospital is such a difficult thing to deal with, sending healing thoughts and prayers.

Hugs,

S

Aloha · ~*Service Worker*~

Sending love and prayers your way, IAH. May HP wrap you all in his comfort and love.

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all for the prayers and support. There are so many, many stories online (if you look) about the state of affairs based on the virus. The good news - after days of unknowing, my mother's test came back negative. That's great news, however, if you go to the hospital, and you are presumed positive, they put you with 'others' who are presumed positive AND positive. Each person has their own room, and they take every precaution, yet when you are released, you are expected to abide by the minimum 14 day quarantine since you've been to a hospital that is treating virus patients.

My mom remains in the hospital, and tests are showing she's got bleeding in her bowels. Resources are stretched super thin, so she's in a waiting stage until they can determine what it is and what to do, if anything. She's beyond ready to go home since there are no visitors and she's stressed about being there because of the virus. I'll keep you all posted.

In the meantime, while staying @ home is different, boring, restrictive, etc. this situation with my mom has helped me see the value. Any trip to the hospital right now, no matter for what, is a high-risk situation. Stay home all and stay safe!

tiredtonite · Veteran Member

I'm pleased to read your update. Although not one hundred percent good news, certainly reason to hope. Wonderful that she tested negative, something for your Dad to hold onto until he is able to see her. You've had so much recently (((Iam))))

Thank you for coming by to post and update about your family and for your continued service here. I greatly appreciate you. Yes... everyone stay home - good advice.

Stay well and I will continue to keep your family in my prayers. Praying for a good outcome for all of us. TT

-- Edited by tiredtonite on Wednesday 8th of April 2020 08:07:02 AM

bud · ~*Service Worker*~

(((IamHere))) I'm so sorry for this news. Sending continual positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Aloha · ~*Service Worker*~

I'm glad she didn't test positive for the virus, but I definitely empathize the frustration there must be in having other serious health issues and not being allowed to see your family. Continued prayers coming your way for your mother and you and your family.

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank goodness she is negative, I am sorry for her continued health struggles. I hope you are taking care of yourself too!!

Hugs, S :)

PosiesandPuppies · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for coming back and updating. I am glad that she has tested negative. I am sorry that she still has health issues that cause her to be in hospital. Keeping my prayers for you and your mom and dad up!

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

No updates yet as of this morning. I am 2 hours ahead of them, so this makes sense. While there is never, ever a good time to be sick/hospitalized, it is really, really bad right now. I am so grateful for all who are in the field working tirelessly to save lives, keep patients comfortable, keep company, etc. I just can't imagine how challenging things are for them in the current state of affairs!

Thanks for the prayers, support, etc. (((MIP)))

Skorpi · ~*Service Worker*~

(((IAH))) Hoping for good news today.

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks all - my mother was finally discharged last night...she's at home (finally) with my dad, supposed to be quarantined because of the potential exposure at the hospital. I spoke with multiple folks @ the hospital asking them to clearly explain what quarantine meant and ... let's just say they reside in a state which has not embraced stay @ home orders like others. I am as powerless over 'this' as I am anything else.

They discovered another (new) medical condition, and scheduled an appointment today with a specialist. My mother decided (and my father chose to not fight) that she did not want to go. If things clear up more, I will be headed out there in May for a visit. So, one day at a time, all is well! I can't believe it's only been one week since she was admitted...between the stay @ home orders and the way the week panned out, it sure feels longer.

All prayers, well wishes, good thoughts and support are very appreciated. I am grateful to have my parents still - just didn't realize that, at times, it can be like dealing with obstinate toddlers and/or unruly teens...it's truly a daily adventure, and at times, a bit overwhelming.

Love and light all!

tiredtonite · Veteran Member

Wonderful news that your mom has been discharged and is home with your dad. As far as the specialist, she may change her mind and go. You are right to just take this all odaat. You and your parents continue in my prayers. If you celebrate the current holidays, it's an extra bit of a gift not to have loved ones hospitalized at such a time. We Alanons have lots of training in staying present, finding gratitude and taking things one day at a time. You'll see as you said about May. In the meantime, they are just a phone call away. (((iamhere))) Thanks for sharing. TT

Wolfie55 · Senior Member

i just read this now. My thoughts are with you and yours.

Lyne · ~*Service Worker*~

{{{IAH}}} Prayers, light, and love, being sent to you and your parents.

When I saw your heading, something about no good topic or title comes to mind, that's exactly how I feel this morning. There is so much pain and suffering and fear all around. Of course I am using my tools and gratitude and ODAT, etc., but some moments, like right now, just feel too damn bad to feel good. I will do my best to pull myself together, find beauty in this day, appreciate what I do have, etc. But it sure ain't easy , Lyne

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for the added 'love' MIP family! Lyne - your post made me think 'back' to that evening. My dad and I had just finished our call, and I was just sitting with my thoughts, fears, prayers, etc. and figured a great place to ask for prayers was MIP. I came here and literally just could not think of a topic title - thus - it is what it is. I needed to share and was getting all 'wound up' over a darn topic title! It tells me that I can still at times be overly concerned about the 'wrong things'...

My heart is heavy with the thoughts of all who've lost their lives and their families. I am grateful that more reporting is now focusing on those who've won the battle and recovered. There is no doubt these are truly tough times and my mind just keeps going back to 'be part of the solution' not part of the problem.

I must admit that with the stay @ home orders, and my parents, I got out of my daily routine! I'm working now to return to it just because I do so much better with some structure. I've been making gratitude lists again and simple things - starting my day with a shower vs. doing other first - are helping my attitude and outlook! I hear you and you're not alone! (((Hugs)))

TT - I have been calling daily and it's kind of funny because it's not typical. I think I can even 'hear' a bit of frustration from them! It is what it is!

Thanks Wolfie - hope you and yours are all healthy and well!

sunmustshine · Senior Member

((((Iamhere)))). I just read what your family has been going through. I am so glad your mom has made it through. Thank goodness. I hope everyone else is okay and this weekend is full of peace and rest for you after such a scary time.

DavidG · ~*Service Worker*~

aww good to hear your update IAm... ...these are extra-ordinary times...

you and your family are in my prayers... smile ...

mamalioness · ~*Service Worker*~

Dear Iamhere WOW!!! I am so sorry, but GLAD your mom made it through....Sending loads of prayers for mom and dad and you stay safe as well..........Prayers on the way

PS sorry I am late seeing this, I have not been on groups much of late....and I need to change that....Take care

mamalioness · ~*Service Worker*~

Hey Iam....Hows your mom???? Sending her prayers for continued recovery....

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks for asking Rose....she's slowly on the mend from the pneumonia. Her body tells her when she needs to rest and she's resistant to that. Both are doing 'better' at staying @ home, for which I am grateful. I check in with them daily and so far, so good!

SerenityRUS · ~*Service Worker*~

Glad to hear that things are better for everyone.

Hugs S :)

mamalioness · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks, Iam...Glad to hear shes on the mend.......sending prayers for continued recovery...Take care and you be safe...I just wanted to say to you that in Betty's passing, I notice that you have stepped up and are posting more...I know I speak on behalf of the other members...This is GREATLY appreciated.....I plan, when i can, with work and all (still got one rather busy and demanding job open and doing tax returns) I Plan to try and help out with some Beattie and other stuff....Again, Thanks Iamhere for your service

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks ladies! I have to admit, I can tell when they answer the phone, they are a bit annoyed....I, and they, are all very independent and we all generally are super busy. With the many stay @ home orders, not so much. They are always pleasant yet it reminds me of chasing down my kids when they were teens to 'check in'. It is difficult to be so far away from them, but I am really grateful for modern technology. They share one email account, share one mobile phone and both pick up when I dial the home phone so it's pretty easy to connect. I tried to teach them texting and it was a bit of a stretch but the lessons continue.

As far as MIP goes, I believe everyone has stepped up. We can never replace Betty's wisdom, smile, knowledge, shares, etc. and everyone misses her greatly. I still feel her with us each time I stop by MIP and hope that never goes away...what pops in my mind each and every time I think of Betty is her lovely, beautiful smile and those lovely smiling eyes that matched. Betty was a truly spiritual presence for me, in so many ways. Slowly, my sadness has turned around a bit and I am able to focus on what she left us vs. her leaving us. I hope that makes sense - evening is just not prime brain time for me!

Love and Light all...

mamalioness · ~*Service Worker*~

Iamhere, that was beautiful what you said of our Betty...to me?? she is still here, still alive, just in another awareness or dimension, but shes HERE!!! I loved her smile and her gentle yet firm "chastising" of me when I needed it and it was plenty, LOL...I loved her and will always love her....I was telling a church mate who is in recovery with me at the CR groups in the church, we do our chats now on zoom and i was telling them how Betty was so key in my big changing of me...How vital she was in so many areas of my life and my goal, to thank her and honor her, is to pay that forward and be a blessing to others who need encouragement and support and ESH...I guess that is how I keep her alive for me...

and I totally like what you say here "I am able to focus on what she left us vs. her leaving us." SPOT on!!!! I could not say it better....Sending healing prayers to your mom.....

EVERYONE be safe and well!!!!

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Good evening MIP family....Again, no good topic comes to mind, as I now have to ask all for prayers for my father. He's been taken by ambulance to the same hospital my mom was in with a high fever and extreme lack of energy. He doesn't have any other symptoms that I'm aware of. Because we don't yet know if he has Covid, the sheriff, hospital and just about everyone is suggesting nobody go in the home.

While I understand this is principle, I have an 85 year old woman recovering from pneumonia with dementia who probably should not be left alone for too long. I have a brother approx. 2 hour away, who committed to go be with her and has now changed his mind. Unlike my mother, my father really doesn't have any other health concerns, beyond his age yet I am very concerned for them both.

Any prayers you can spare are appreciated. I'll keep you all posted and if I'm gone more than necessary, you'll know why. (((Hugs)))

tiredtonite · Veteran Member

(((iamhere)))) You'll do what you need to do. Prayers you and for your family. TT

mamalioness · ~*Service Worker*~

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Iamhere))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) OMG....sending prayers for ALL of you.....praying, in addition to mom, for dad too.....So sorry you are hit with this and no worries if you cannot be on so much....you will be missed, but we get it....Take care of you......and do be safe and well......

PosiesandPuppies · ~*Service Worker*~

((((Iamhere))))

I am so sorry to hear this. I will be praying for his health and safety, as well as a solution for your mom who is at home alone.

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene