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Post Info TOPIC: Today's Hope March 18


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Today's Hope March 18


Hello MIP! 

Like many others, I'm at home for a while - ended up with some flu-like symptoms, and supposed to stay home and isolate. Thankfully, I'm already starting to feel better, I know many others aren't as lucky. 

My Courage to Change book is in my office at work, and I can't get to it. Checked the local library, and they do not have a digital edition. In such cases, I'm thankful to the folks at Today's hope: https://www.todays-hope.com/todays-sharing.html They post daily readings from Alanon's magazine The Forum. I've often counted on this resource when I've been traveling or away from home, and now, I'll count on it again while at home. smile Sharing here in case anyone else is in the same boat. 

Today's reading from Today's Hope starts with a quote from Sandra Litter: "Making prompt amends is the fresh air of each new day." 

Each new day, according to the author, brings us a new hill to climb and a new view from the top. When we take the time to reflect about our daily journeys is a challenging adventure in self discovery. When we look down from the top of the hill, we can see our past trials and difficulties. This allows us to let go of our old baggage and gives us a bright window to open onto tomorrow. One tool we can use is a daily inventory - honestly acknowledging the things we have done or said to hurt ourselves or others allows us to make amends, let go of regret, make room for the love and comfort of our HP, and begin each new day with a clean slate. 

Today's Reminder: "I am no longer a victim of life; I am a survivor with choices." 

Today's Quote: "As with expeditions into the wilds when we have endured storms and rapids, cold and sleet, and sometimes lack of food, it is ultimately the good things we remember, not the bad." ~ Sigurd F. Olson

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Like many others, I am sure, I am "sheltering in place" with the primary alcoholic in my life. Thankfully, she is in recovery, and I am grateful that I do not have to face the "how can the bars be closed" panic, or the panic buying of alcohol, and the increased consumption because we are "Working" remotely and "no one will know" (All things I have experienced during snow storms in the past.)  I still DO have the opportunity to polish my AlAnon tools and ensure that I am using them daily. The disease of alcoholism is cunning, and does manage to take over sometimes. Last night, for example, was a great time to use my tools after AW had been out driving around and picking up corned beef for herself, as we entered our third  round of "Why did you make fish? I said I was getting us corned beef!" accompanied with staggering and dropping containers of liquid on the floor. Instead of answering again "You said YOU were going to get YOU corned beef, and I said that I needed to cook the fish before it went bad and that I did not want corned beef" I said "Do you really want to do this again? We have already had this conversation twice since you got home." I didn't ask about the staggering or lack of coordination, I didn't ask about the inability to hold a conversation or share with me why she was upset about communication from her employer. Maybe she was drinking, maybe she wasn't. In any case, it is her business, and I decided I didn't need to involve myself in it. I just ignored the behavior I didn't like, carried on with my work (a late night because campus decided it would close for the rest of the semester), and breathed a sigh of relief when she started snoring on the sofa immediately after throwing her container away outside. 

That was one heck of a hill to climb. And now, looking back, I see that I acted the best I could, I de-escalated without buying into delusions, and I had a calm evening. I stayed firm in my truth, and did not cause emotional harm to myself.  Just a few years ago, I would not have seen that I had choices available to me. And I'm grateful to the Alanon program, and this online community especially, for helping me to understand that I am a survivor with choices.  

I hope you are well! 



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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu



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'Mahalo Skorpi for your compassion and  thoughtfulness.  I read your growth in recovery and love the example I get to follow myself.  I don't have room or example to complain.  I have patience example holding on to my Higher Power's love for us.   ((((hugs))))wink

 



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Good morning MIP family! Thank you Skorpi for your service and the daily! Thanks to you and Jerry for your shares and ESH. I sure hope you feel better soon Skorpi - thank goodness we learn to practice self-care in recovery. I do believe strongly in that, as you do, so prayers for healing and comfort.

I am social distancing and have been for a while. I am very grateful that I have a place to do so, and that in my area, most folks are being patient, graceful, etc. Yes - there are always some who rebel against authority or suggestions - and, because of my recovery, I do know that I am powerless over people, places and things too.

One of the first and best gifts recovery has given me is the One Day at a Time approach to life. I NEVER considered this before so never practiced it either. The past made me sad or angry and the future had me projecting, full of fear. When I practice staying present in the moment or in the day, it's much easier for me to trust in facts, respond with compassion and have the clearness and presence of mind to own 'my stuff' and deal with it! If I owe an amends, I can make it. I get to embrace life, one day at a time, the good and the not-so-good and practice responding in a healthy and spiritual way.

I openly embrace the miracle of recovery and really take the time to find gratitude daily in all that is. Yesterday, my small group of recovery minded gal pals discussed nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. In spite of the virus, the spread, the fear, etc. we are able to trust and help each other get by.

Love and light to all - we will get through this and we will continue to grow/learn if we decide to do so. One Day at a Time, I can and will spread joy and service instead of fear and mayhem. (((Hugs))) to all - make it a great day!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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