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It is with a heavy heart that Im telling you Betty died early this morning. I have asked Peter if there are any details of her funeral he wants shared on the board. This is devastating news for me, and Im sure for many of you. Lyne
Oh dearest Betty, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you for your long, dedicated service to Higher Power. How grateful I am that you were with us, to inspire so much love from our hearts. You will be greatly missed, but I am glad for your release... from the burden of body troubles.
May you cast away all fear... and enjoy your release, your well-deserved space of freedom, light and joy... United again with your beloved son.
I knew from the day we first met that we were on loan to each other. I knew from my early post that I felt I was traveling side by side with Steven as we both were leaving Hilo at the same time...him in his Camaro which you described to me. I knew I just had to tell you and we never forgot.
I know as you will that you will keep our MIP family in your thoughts and prayers as we do. You are not far off. Mahalo so much for the love you gave and continue to do so.
HP let her walk hand and hand with you especially when you are in my neighborhood. (((((Hugs)))))
What incredibly sad news. Thank you ((((((Betty))))) for all of your service and for so long being a beloved member of our recovery family. You are loved. You are missed. Sending my condolences to all who love you. TT
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Peter will give me the funeral arrangements when they are finished, so I can post them on the board.
Betty was my sponsor. She got me to my first F2F and took me through the Steps more than once. I will always be grateful for the ESH she gave me, and saw the good in me when I could not. I will carry her in my heart through the rest of my days. She was a beautiful spirit in the real world. Lyne
Oh, this is incredibly sad! We will feel the loss of her wisdom, yet gained so much from it over time. She is rejoicing at being reunited with her beloved son. (((((Betty)))))
Oh no!!!!!! I had a bad feeling this am about her.......I almost was afraid to come on board here....................Oh God!!!!!! I am gonna miss her.......I LOVED her so..........she "started me in" as an alanoner and I would mess up and alienate folks and she would write me and tell me to "come back" I was worth it....She took me under her wing and HELPED me so much to change....tho I could NEVER be like that beautiful gracious woman, I can pay what she gave me forward....and i do...........I am heartbroken over this!!!!!!! or LORD!!!! I don't understand your ways at time, and there are times I think life sucks and is so unfair , we needed Betty HERE with US!!!! Heaven is not short on angels anymore....They got the best one earth had to offer..............She was my MENTOR, my sponsor when I needed one....my FRIEND......sometimes she would just write to me when I was struggling with something and just tell me she loved and believed in me.................Ohhhhhhhh my heart hurrrrrrrrrts to see this
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I am crying as I type... a woman I never met, yet respected so much!
I remember when she changed her Avatar and I could put a face to the name... such a wonderful smile! I admired her straightforward attitude about Recovery. In my short time here... knowing her... I gained so much. Thank you, Betty!
My prayers are with her SO, Peter, and also with Lyne & Rose - it must be terribly hard to lose your sponsor to the inevitably of death.
I will move forward in my day, knowing that she is at peace with her son. ((((((((((Betty))))))))))))
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
How MANY times did I have to borrow HER love and belief in me when I had none??? Let me count the times!! I cannot....All these years, this gentle spirit giant of a women was there for me and I remember how excited I was when when she went on vaca. she asked ME to do her daily...Boy, I felt like "I gotta do my BEST, make her proud of me" and I worried because sometimes I goof up and oh well, she came back and was so happy with the posts I did...I'll never forget how generous she was with telling it like it is and doing it with the utmost of kindness, yet spot on truth....
I could go on and on about my memories of having this wonderful woman in my life..I think everyone she touched is the better for it and the best way we can say "Betty, I love you and thank you for teaching/guiding me" is to pay that forward...Every time I go to my fac2fac meets at our CR group at church and I share a "Betty" style share in helping a newbie to "come back" and that they matter, THAT is how I will keep her alive...in My heart and in the hearts of those that I can touch.....
((((((tiredtonight)))))) Always good to see you...I hope you are doing well....and thanks for the hug which I sure appreciate....Its still hard to believe she is gone!!!!
Betty will be greatly missed ,it doesnt seem real she is gone.
Betty was also my sponsor for last 5 years,she taught me alot ,she was a great reminder of always having my tools with me and HP.
Betty is still with us in spirit and mind.
till we meet again ,sending up hugs ,sending hugs to all of us here on board.
So sad to read this news. I can only add that I always read her posts and admired the support and love she gave to others. I also hope that the others who were closer to her find some solace in the wonderful work she so obviously did on this board and other areas. x
Rest in peace sweet Betty. Your light will shine eternal for all of us whom you touched with your kindness, love, generous spirit, wisdom and recovery. As much as I and we miss you, what a lovely thought to know you are reconnected with your sweet son Stephen. Love and light always Betty! Love and light.
Thank you Lynn for being our point person. I am so very sorry for your loss and am grateful you were willing/able to reach out and keep us in the know. That messenger job really can 'suck' so know that you are appreciated!
What a loss and void. I am so very grateful for the time we had together and will cherish all that Betty shared, represented, and taught. May perpetual light shine upon you and MIP always!
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I am so sorry to hear about everyone's loss. My heartfelt condolences go out to Betty's friends, loved ones, and family. My warmest regards, compassion, and feelings of comfort and support, to all of those impacted by Betty's passing.
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Keep coming back...
God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Dearest Betty. So glad I knew you. So grateful your wisdoms and kindness are enshrined here on our board and I know deep within me your mother heart rejoices to be with your Stephen. Thank you my dear friend for being in my life. Xxx Edna.
So very sad to hear this news.... Betty and I had a special & treasured relationship, and one that I will miss immensely. She was a calm and a peace for MIP, despite her substantial loss to the horrors of alcoholism.... she was a beautiful spirit, who will be missed.
Tom
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This is such terribly sad news. Bettys words were always filled with such warmth and strength. When I first came to Alanon, she made me feel welcome and gave me hope. I will miss her and her unwavering support for this community. May she rest in peace. My deepest sympathies to all who suffer from this enormous loss. (((((((Hugs)))))))
This is such sad news, but I'm sure she's relieved to be at peace now. She left a loving legacy in her wake. If we could all aspire to such a life. Thank you, Betty, for your service in this life. Much love and blessings to you and your family and friends. May God wrap those remaining in His comfort and love.
We all know Betty was extremely active in al.anon in Nee York she was loved everywhere
Some of us will not be able to be there at her funeral and wake but rest assured al.anon will be there en.mass
She will get the kind of impressive send off she deserves
Like the rest of you I carry Betty with me
She was my sponsor for a while as well.
What a wonderful person she was
We are so very very lucky to have had her
Maresie
Ive just been reading through the most recent comments about Betty. I hope in Heaven she gets to see all these. I want her to feel the love and know how she inspired all of us. Love and miss you Betty, Lyne
(((Lyne))) - I do believe she's aware of our love for her. This gives me some comfort as I grieve. She was such a great example of recovery in action - forever kind, forever humble and forever gracious. I love the idea that she's on a never-ending cruise - gave me a great visual in my mind/heart for today!
(((Hugs))) to all - Betty you are treasured, missed and loved...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I am also comforted by the visual of the "never-ending cruise."
Thank you.
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"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Just seeing this now. My heart is heavy. She was always such a light in my darkest days! I will miss you, Betty. May you be in peace. You will be missed.
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I am so sad to hear this. Betty was my rock when I started at MIP, and I always looked forward to her ESH. I wish her a good journey.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
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