The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The reading for Monday, July 15, talks about practicing our program the best we can at the pace that is right for us. The author suggests not speaking harshly towards others. The writer suggests that a nonjudgmental, listening ear is a great blessing.
Reminder: Today I will try to extend to my fellow members the respect, patience, and courtesy that I want for myself.
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I have always tried to practice the golden rule, which todays reminder is similar to. But perhaps where I most need to practice these principles, is with myself. I am just coming out of a setback which lasted a good month or two. I have heard myself saying to me, I should know better, I shouldnt be doing this, Ive already gotten past this etc. I know that setbacks are normal and I need to be patient with myself. I cant cope with my A the way I want to, all of the time. Being human is being flawed. I can only move forward the best I can, at the pace I am doing, just as the author says. Lyne
Good Morning Lyne I love the principles of alanon. They have provided me with the tools to be kind gentle, supportive and compassionate to all I encounter. Thanks for your service
Perfectionism is self-abuse. I've learned that myself as I used to "should" all over myself, too. Actually, "used to" is not correct. I'll still catch myself doing it occasionally. This happens more often when I'm off-center and not keeping HP at the top of my list of priorities.
Thanks for the reminder. And I, too, believe in the golden rule, and I tend to apply it much more easily to those outside of me but need extra work around doing it for myself.
Thank you Lyne for your service and timely reminder!
Thanks to those who shared above. Aloha, I loved what you said, "Perfectionism is self-abuse." I have never heard that, and I have never thought of that trait in that manner! But it truly can be a form of self-abuse!
***Mind Blown***
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
I have been more aware of being non-judgmental toward people in my life.....not necessarily just fellow members. I have a couple of family members that used to drive me insane with their idiosyncrasies. Well, who is without idiosyncrasies? When I find my mind going "there" I quickly say the serenity prayer and ask for blessings on them. Who am I to judge anyone?
