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Today's reading from courage to change is about remembering that everyone is in the hands of HP.
The author begins by describing how their group usually welcomes newcomers. It had been a habit that the group followed, not something they had taken a group conscience about.
One evening, when newcomers were in attendance, the chairperson departed from the routine. The author forgot why they were at the meeting and was filled with worry that the newcomers wouldn't get what they needed from the meeting. The author spent the rest of the evening worrying about the newcomers.
At the end of the meeting, one of the newcomers shared how grateful they were to have been there and that they had heard exactly what they needed to hear. The author was reminded that that HP works through our groups to make sure we all get what we need.
Today's reminder: i do not know what is best for other people. Today i will remember that newcomers, and everyone else, are in the hands of a power greater than myself.
Today's quote: "when i stop dwelling on how things would probably work out, i was better able to pay attention to what i was doing." living with sobriety
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I really like today's reading. I often wonder about why my group does things in a certain way, and i often hesitate to ask for a meeting of conscious, because I'm not sure how important it is, really. Each group has its own flavor, and i like the flavor of meeting. I trust that hp is working through the group and we will grow and change as we need to, without my interference.
Last few days in the north woods for me. There has been a lot of rain, but today looks sunny and bright so I'm looking forward to hiking!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
This Courage to Change is a good one. I really like your take on it also. I love the idea that I can look at another person at a meeting knowing their higher power is working through them and appreciating it. For me that will be a good way to see other people instead of worrying what they think of me or worrying what they think about my share. I even worry about what the expression on their faces mean!!! Anyway I just got the book and will begin my journey with it. I want to remove my critical eye and be more forgiving of myself and others AND not worry so much!
Thank you Skorpi for your service... even in the woods!!! I am grateful.
This is how HP is working... perfect share for me today, as my father is going in for a procedure. He was recently diagnosed with an occluded artery, but cannot have the surgery b/c his heart (which has a stent) is too weak... they just diagnosed him with CHF. The procedure today is to look how the blood flow is, and to check on the stent which has been there for about 8 years. This man has been my rock... but probably more so the last 2 years. The fear of losing him is almost insurmountable.
I have been worried and disquieted since the diagnosis, but today I opened this page and got a reminder that his outcome today is in his HP's hands. It is my job to have FAITH it will turn out OK. I have zero control over this, so I must hand it over to MY HP.
I find it funny that many times I hear just what I need. I am grateful.
Hump day y'all!!! Make it a good one!
Skorpi, enjoy that hike! I wish I was there with ya, enjoying nature at it's best!!
-- Edited by PosiesandPuppies on Wednesday 3rd of July 2019 09:48:08 AM
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you Skorpi for your service and the daily! Thank you all for your shares and ESH. Yay for woods and hiking - being in nature really, really makes me feel much closer to the God of my understanding...
I am headed out of town shortly for a funeral for a good friend's father. His passing is sad yet his last few months were beyond painful/horrible. He was diagnosed with cancer, and went downhill suddenly while trying to obtain treatment. Because of my program and my belief in a God of my understanding, I can truly see that our sadness here ranks much lower than his now painless existence in another realm. I am not certain how I feel about heaven/hell and it doesn't matter - he is truly free of pain and suffering which gives me gratitude even with my sadness....my emotions are no longer mutually exclusive - a great gift of recovery!
My days and life go much, much better when I remember that we each have our own journey and our own HP and no matter who it is, I am not it! I look at my sons and still wonder at times why they are where they are and then I remember their journey is really not my business. I am grateful for the small changes in me and my thinking which are a direct result of recovery.
PnP - sending prayers and positive energy your way for your father's procedure and condition. My mom has lived with CHF for many, many years and is closer now to her end of life because her kidneys are shutting down. My AH has 3 stents, and has had 2 heart attacks + triple bypass. At times, it feels like I am surrounded by ticking time bombs, and then I really have to climb back down to earth and remember I am powerless over when they are called home. My best tool for all this is to just stay present, in the moment, one day at a time. (((Hugs)))
Happy hump day MIP family! Make it a great day!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you Skorpi! Although I am not a "woodsy" type gal, I can appreciate how beautiful, and serene and cleansing the experience is. Enjoy your last few days.
All these life events.....illness, end of life.....we really are not in the driver's seat, are we? That is why I am so grateful that Alanon has brought me close to my HP. I still go into my instinct mode of trying to think of solutions...and then before I get TOO crazy I remember that my HP is with me and it will be as it should. Good or bad or sad or baffling.....I truly believe it and we are where we should be.
Happy Wednesday to all. It is finally starting to feel like summer here in western New York State.....now that it is July!
Hi Skoept I do hope you enjoyed this day in the north woods I do appreciate this powerful reminder that HP is in control and that mmob is very important to my recovery. Thank you for your continued service
