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Post Info TOPIC: C2C, 1/21


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C2C, 1/21


The reading for Monday, 1/21, discusses how the author was confused about what was their business, they felt they had to take care of everyone, and they could not pay attention to their own needs.  Alanon helped them listen and learn to their own body, soul, and HP.  They would check in with themself-hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?  The author discovered a ripple effect:  if they could listen to themself, they had a better chance of detaching from others when needed, and that became the foundation for serenity.

The reminder says we do not have to wait until we emotionally collapse before paying attention to our own needs.

For most of my life I could ignore my own needs often to please others first, but also because I didnt know I deserved respect and TLC.  Looking back I can see that I did some very foolish things, because I was afraid to say no.  I had no self that I could trust or rely on.  My sponsor helped me very much in this area.  She made me aware of my assets and worthiness, just the way I am.  It is important now to take care of my needs, and I can even come first when that feels right, Lyne5

 



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Thanks ((Lyne))) for your service and sharing. Such a great reading about practicing self-love. HALT is a great daily go to tool. When I am satisfying these needs, I'm better able to take care of each thing that comes along during the day with thoughtful consideration rather than reacting to a person or situation. TT



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Good morning, Lyne and Tired!!! Hope you weekend went well.

Thank you Lyne for the daily. It reminds me of the need for HALT... to "check-in" with myself... see what are my needs today... at this moment?

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Thank you for the post. It has introduced me to to a new tool. I had not come across HALT before but I take it that it's a thing! I was unsettled this morning after a parent rang me saying that her daughter was upset over a disagreement between our six-year-olds from last week. We had also spoken about their relationship before christmas. I got some clarity from her about my daughter's part in the problem however when I tried to point out some with hers I got 'well, that has never happened with anyone else'. I think if an outsider were to listen to our gently assertive exchanges they would fall about laughing as we can each see a problem with the others' daughter but are slow to see the problem in our own

Anyway, the thing I really noticed is that I had a horrible sinking feeling after. It reminded me of being dumped by a boyfriend or when there used to be a problem at my childhood home when my mother was drinking. So I read your post and HALT helped me to identify that I feel angry - angry at her. An anger that has, somewhat, passed thankfully. I also realised that I felt lonley as my husband is on a trip for a month. He will help me from a distance but I guess I feel more vulnerable dealing with going into school on my own. I actually found myself walking around the local shopping centre with my girls after school trying to keep my head down in case the other mum would spot me! So I'm not sure what the first feeling was but I'm happy to sit on those feelings for now. It is my responsibility to educate my girls (twins) around name calling and also what to do if someone is mean or bossy. It is also my responsibility to a) be responsible! and b) keep myself from someone else's issues which I suspect there might be a little of.

Thanks friends. X

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Good Morning Lyne Learning how to keep the focus on myself , not jump into another's life and "Help" or give advise was a true gift of this program. Today I cn pray for another offer compassion , support etc without interefering. Thank you alnon. Thank you Lyne and everyone for your ESH



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Good afternoon MIP! Thank you Lyne for the daily and for your service! Thanks to all for the shares and ESH. I love H.A.L.T. and find it a simple concept that for me is often right on. I do not sleep well, not for lack of trying, so am grateful that Al-Anon gave me the tool of pause also. More often than not, pausing and considering H.A.L.T. helps me see quickly something I can do instead of react or personalize someone else's 'stuff'.

As with all things program, when I keep in my lane, my life/days go much better. It's darn, darn cold here and I am grateful to continue hibernating until that changes up! Enjoy your day all!

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thank you Lyne, I hear ya mate on the "waiting till I collapse till i see my needs are being neglected

throughout the day I "check in with me" to see how I'm feeling...what do I need for self care??? and the old am I hungry?? tired?? lonely??? angry??? a quicky step 10 to make sure I'm taking care of yours truly.....

thanks for the great share

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