The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
The reading for Monday, 1/14, discusses the author realizing that they could not stop someone else from drinking. They came to understand that by giving up this losing battle, one could become free. Even when the loved one became sober, the author learned that their fears had little to do with the alcoholic, but indicated that they needed to work their own program .
Today's Reminder: When I am able to admit that I am powerless over alcohol, my life becomes more manageable. Today I will take the path to personal freedom and serenity that begins when I surrender.
The quote is a reminder to try to bring this program into every phase of our daily life.
I stayed angry for the longest time. I understood that alcoholism was a disease, but with so much help available, I couldn't accept that my A would rather drink and drive, not to mention destroy our marriage, than get some help. It wasn't until I truly accepted this concept of being powerless over alcohol and my spouse, that I could finally begin my own recovery. I do now identify with the idea of being free, because I am no longer responsible for anyone else's behavior, except my own. Lyne
Thanks ((Lyne))) for your service and sharing. Like you, I did a bit better with this after I was convinced that alcoholism is a disease. Also, reaching the point of being sick and tired of being sick and tired brought about a forced surrender. I wanted to keep trying to fix the alcoholic in my life but the physical and emotional toll on me outweighed my desire to rescue. I just couldn't do it anymore. I guess this was my higher power doing for me what I could not do for myself, nudging me to let go and begin to take care of myself. That's pretty much when I found my first Alanon meeting and a healthier way to offer loving support to the alcoholics in my life while making self care my top priority. TT
-- Edited by tiredtonite on Sunday 13th of January 2019 11:17:46 PM
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Good morning all - thank you Lyne for the daily and your service. Thank you both for your shares and ESH. As 'life' continues, and the disease never rests, I am again this morning back at Step One - my own powerlessness over this disease in those I love and the chaos it can bring. This reading is perfect for me today, and reminds me that I always get what I need when I need it when I remain open to the hope and miracles available to us in recovery.
I am also grateful that today, I can blame the disease vs. the diseased. This helps me to focus any anger, etc. towards the disease, hoping to remain lovingly detached from the diseased. One Day at a Time, I do know that where I am, how I feel will pass.
Enjoy your Monday MIP. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Good Morning Lyne and MIP I too had difficulty accepting the simple fact that alcoholism is a disease over which i am powerless. i would think that I had accepted this simple fact but then when my son relapsed i wuld go into over drive in attempt to save him. Today i know that i am powerless and that prayers are the tools i can use to confront this devastating disease.---
thanks for your service
