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The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are busy, my evenings, at least my weekend evenings, arent. There is really no one I can hang out with or do anything with most nights. I get lonely. It hit me especially hard tonight when AH made it clear that he had no intention of going or doing anything with me. I started to feel sorry for myself and was nearing tears. But I pulled it together and tealized that I didnt have to sit and stare at those walls again tonight. I decided to take *myself* to a movie. Ive never done anything like this before. It feels awkward to be doing it on my own. Im sitting in the parking lot right now getting ready to go in and Ive almost talked myself out of it 10 times already. But Im going.
Twinkies, Ill be curious as to how you liked it. I gave myself permission many years ago to go to a movie alone. I loved it! I still love it! Although hubby and I will go together occasionally....or with a girlfriend....I love being my own date at the movies. Theres a real freedom in it for some reason.
Good for you for refusing to sit and look at the walls! Baby steps and great self-care!
Good for you, Twinkies!! I hope you made it into that theater and enjoyed the movie!
I decided years ago to start taking myself. Never regretted it!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Good for you Twinkies! I am glad you found your courage to do what you wanted to do.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Twinkies, I hope you enjoyed the movie! Nothing wrong with seeing a movie alone, or enjoying a nice dinner out with a good book... I have done this a number of times. I realized that in the slogan Live and Let Live, the first word is "Live." We can enjoy living our lives.
The kids are staying at my parents house tonight. I was hoping since they were gone, maybe AH and I could do something together. Maybe dinner or a movie. I brought it up to him but he chose instead to do what he does most nights - relax in his man cave with his faithful companion Sam Adams. While my days are busy, my evenings, at least my weekend evenings, arent. There is really no one I can hang out with or do anything with most nights. I get lonely. It hit me especially hard tonight when AH made it clear that he had no intention of going or doing anything with me. I started to feel sorry for myself and was nearing tears. But I pulled it together and tealized that I didnt have to sit and stare at those walls again tonight. I decided to take *myself* to a movie. Ive never done anything like this before. It feels awkward to be doing it on my own. Im sitting in the parking lot right now getting ready to go in and Ive almost talked myself out of it 10 times already. But Im going.
About going to the movie...AWESOME FOR YOU!!!
About him, his drinking, and so on...NOTHING CHANGES IF NOTHING CHANGES.
I hope you enjoyed the movie!!! Next time, see if there's a friend around, make plans with a friend, etc. All the best.
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
WAAAAY 2 Go Twinkiesl-------going out with your best ever friend....I do it...I go alone all the time as I live alone....its not much different then AH #1...he didn't want my company either because his jack daniels was his company....2nd AH and I had fun and went out a lot, I just had to drive us home, LOL, but we did have a good time, I gotta admit...but with AH#1, I just took me out by myself or hung out with my GFs....I was not gonna sit and stare at the walls while he drank...it made him mad, me having fun with my friends, I guess he expected meto stay home and be miserable....I refused to....now, living alone, it has become habit...no one to do something with??? do it with me!!!!! GOOD FOR YOU
I love going to movies on my own! No one to gripe about me not choosing a movie they liked, and I get to choose just what I want. Hope you chose a great one and had a good time. Good for you for making your own fun!
