The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
As I sat this morning reflecting on 2018, with all of its incredible blessings and struggles I am grateful. To those whom are new, a very warm welcome and a message of hope that you are never alone even when it seems like it cannot get any worse this board has been and is a beacon of light to all of us. It is a place to come to at any hour of any day and someone will always reach out and extend a helping hand.
To those whom have lost a loved one through death, divorce, or perhaps born out of necessity as a protective boundary, I send my heartfelt prayers for you and for your loved ones struggling with addiction. I have received so much more here then I could ever give back and for that I thank all of you.
As I work on my own recovery, I notice small but significant changes in my stress, my overall health and relationships with others. Even though my addicted loved ones continue to struggle, I am able to change and have many moments of happiness return in my life. . I never thought that was possible. That is the gift of the program. I am forever a changed person having had the experience of an addicted loved one, but I think a better, kinder, more accepting person. There has been many lessons to be learned in this journey.
HP works in mysterious ways . This is a fine example of that where cyber strangers feel like friends united by a common bond not of our choosing. My wish for all of you is tremendous peace in 2019, moments of joy, and growth. Happy New Year.
-- Edited by serenity47 on Monday 31st of December 2018 04:01:14 PM
Happy New Year right back to you Serenity!!! Love and light to you and yours and many wishes for a lovely new year, one day at a time! I am glad you shared and are part of my journey....keep coming back and know I pray for your daughter each day along with my boys and all who are struggling with this disease. I also pray for all in recovery and the family/friends who are affected by the disease. I agree that HP works in mysterious ways!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I have been taught and shone a lot about gratitude on my journey in recovery. I am so fortunate to have reached that day that I needed to stop and rest and to do it here. My family lives here. ((((hugs))))
Hey Serenity47...Isn't it GREAT when we can actually look at the beginning of the year, and now and see PROGRESS??? I thought If I did that, I was slipping into over confidence, LOL AND that it was a BAD thing to think in any other terms but "I'm messed up and I need my program"
I HAVE changed and for the better....I've been hammered with "letting go" "detachment" to the point where I was doing a lot of grieving, crying, anger, etc., but I ACCEPT now that I can only manage me, so why not just focus on ME??? Now THERES a new one for me.....change me...change my energy...change my life for the better...
oh yea, this year was miserable in a lot of ways, but I've changed for the better...I'm a bit beat up by life being so hard, but I'm still here and I think I've broken through some reeely bad obsticles re: my self sabotaging and my fears, needing to always be in control
I may never like change or being powerless, but I can "ride it out' better then I did last year....they say, when you start really grasping the lesson and are willing to practice the healthy behavior, those awful patterns done repeat....I see myself being in a better place this coming year..emotionally, perceptions...managing my fears, casting my burdens to the universe, rather than to fight them..I see me even having hope.financially, even.......
I hope you and yours have a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year and thank you for your lovely share...I enjoyed reading it.......
Thanks for this thread and the posts. It is hard to focus on my grateful list while I am struggling. I review it, live it, embrace it, but the stinking thinking and whatever else is getting to me just seems to stay as the focal point. But, just for today, just for the moment, one day at a time, one minute at a time...I will apply and work my program...and steps one, two, and three...and will continue to keep trying, getting better, and getting healthy. Thanks again all.
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
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