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Todays reading is about accepting what we can control, its about not projecting an issue, its about staying in our own business. The writer describes the period of time when his/her parents were divorced; the difficulty in staying out of the animosity, especially because they all were involved in program service. After considering the program slogan let go and let God the writer was able to let go rather than obsess and not feel the need to try and steer a situation or circumstances in any way.
This reading resonates with me as I am thinking about the many times I have built up a situation in my mind- ensuring there was a conflict or problem, as if I willed there to be one! I appreciate the wisdom of the thought for the day that allows me to avoid feeling that I have to do something about any given situation. It turns out-I can let life unfold on its own terms! Knowing that its not up to me to direct any situation Im part of (and even those Im not a part of!) is a relief.
Good Morning Mary love this reminder to MYB- stay in my own life and focus on my self. Inever knew how to do this before program sa I felt that the actions of others caused me to react in a negative manner. Enter progam, learning how to stay in my own life, examine my motives not React and Marvel of Marvel, I do not have to change anyone but myself. and respond in a constructive manner I am off to a 14 day cruise to Mexico and iwll see you when i return. Thanks for your service
Thank you Mary for your service and the daily. Thanks to you and Betty for your ESH and shares. Have a fantastic time Betty!
I had no idea how to be 'one' among many. Before recovery, I got myself all wrapped up in the lives and business of others - more for those I love. In recovery, I have gotten better at working on me, focusing on what I can change (me), not judging others or giving away my power and the results are all positive.
I have learned how to be of service without depleting me and how to detach with love while using boundaries for self-preservation and peace of mind. The best part is I no longer have to feel blame or shame nor do I look at others to blame or shame. I lived in a mindset that right/wrong were the only choices before and I no longer feel that way. What's right for me is what matters whether it ever applies to another or not.
I don't have bad days with recovery - ever. I may have challenging moments that before would have me classify the whole day as bad. Today, I realize my attitude and outlook are directly related to my efforts at recovery - I get what I give. I am grateful for the freedom from my own previous thinking process recovery offers, and focus on what's good vs. what's not.
Happy Sunday - we got some weather headed our way so planning to hibernate accordingly! Enjoy your day MIP family!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you, Mary for your service. As par the course, you manage in some way to post about what I really need to work on! I guess that is my HP working through you!
I am always grateful for Betty and Iamhere's wisdom, as they have many more years working on this program (and themselves) than I do, and today I am open to learning from them as I do not know everything!
Betty, have a safe cruise, and make some enjoyable memories to last a lifetime!
Because I no longer live, nor am I married to my spouse who was "my alcoholic," I find that it is much easier to stay in my own hoop. I am lucky that he has embraced recovery and holds no animosity. I work on myself daily so that I don't hold onto resentments regarding the demise of my marriage. I am getting better at it each and every day.
But... there is always a "but," isn't there? I find that what Mary shares in her post is exactly where I am at with my young adult son who still lives with me. I still catch myself trying to steer a situation... to try and force an outcome I want. I also find that I am projecting an issue that is not even an issue... it's only one possibility! One that isn't happening right here, right now... this moment. So, this daily was very timely for me (as usual). I awoke today thanking my HP for all the positives in my life, asking for her to remove my shortcomings and allowing me to live in this day (Part of my Step 7). Today I was reminded to stay in my business only.
I am grateful. We may get some rain this week... sure hope so! I love Iamhere's response to her region's weather... "planning to hibernate accordingly!" LOL! I can just imagine you curled up in multiple blankets with "warmie" socks on, enjoying the fire in the fireplace, while the snow falls out your window. Funny how that thought makes me happy!
Happy Sunday all!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
