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Waiting for someday....The writer speaks of always waiting for the right day, right time, the rainy day, for others to change, etc., etc., when finally realizing that today can be the right day. Alanon helped them to see that they can make their own dreams come true by taking one small step in the direction of their choice.
Today's Reminder: Today I will not wait for a blue moon, a rainy day, the 366th day of the year, or someday to accomplish good things in my life.
Quote from Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe: Each indecision brings its own delays and days are lost lamenting over lost days....What you can or think you can do, begin it. For boldness has Magic, Power, and Genius in it.
I think I have developed more courage since program. I used to let fear keep me paralyzed. What if I said the wrong thing, or hurt someone else's feelings, made a huge mistake, or found people laughing at me or disliking me. I don't mean to sound callous, but I care very little at this point about other's judging me. I try to be a compassionate and kind person, but I have made huge strides in living my life for me. My A has had a huge awakening, and dislikes the person I have become. But with HP's help and my enourmous Alanon family, I continue to thrive like never before. Progress not perfection ODAT, Lyne
I was told that we get locked up between "the what-if's" and "the if-onlys"...
today- to get my head around this I think of other words- like "fears and regrets". To day I manage to centre okay and stay 'in the now' much of the time. It is a great place to be... and to spend some of this precious time joining your thread. ...
Hi Lyne Great topic. taking action no matter how small in the direction of my goals have helped me to achieve many tasks that I once thought impossible.. One day at a time, one step at a time works for me
Love the quote
Thanks for your service
Thank you for your service Lyne. Love the topic as I still find myself easily slipping into the someday... or another moment, a better time, etc. Much appreciated
Oh Lyne, that was GR8 what you shared and I so relate...I care, but I care about me too, and if I am absolutely right?? well..I am firm to my boundaries...Got tested on it BIG time of late and I stood tall for my 5'2" worth of body....I stood TALL for what was right and didn't waver....and yea, "oh when I get this or that I can do this or that" or "when my ship comes in" or "maybe SOME day, I can do this or have that" My hope was always "deferred" in some way, by MY thinking....thinking that "well maybe tomorrow" but tomorrow would come and still no gain on my goal or need, etc., so now, I act TODAY...put the energy in motion TODAY and do everytying I can do to bring it to fruition TODAY....thank you for this AWESOME validation for me of late.........IN SUPPORT
Thanks ((lyne))) for your service and share. Your progress is a true inspiration. It can work if
we work it odaat. I can certainly relate to allowing conditions and people to dictate my happiness. I know I've made alot of progress too but this kind of dependency runs very deep. I need to be mindful of it and routinely ask myself how I can take responsibility and actions beyond living manageably to living happily. This in itself recovery progress for me. To move from just managing life from day to day to risking to reach beyond to new experiences, new people and personal fulfillment is an attainable goal with my higher power and our program. Joy is one of our Alanon topics but seemed like a pipe dream when I was new to this program. I thought I would never get out from under another's disease and all the problems that went along with that. Alanon continues to give me tools I can use in all life situations such as our traditions. I'm grateful the steps and the god of my understanding are there to help me find my way each and every day toward a more happy joyous and free life whether the alcoholics in my life are drinking or not. There's hope with Alanon. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
Lyne, thank you for your service. I really enjoyed the quote today.
I find your progress in this program to be inspirational. Many times you are posting how you are living ODAAT. Things are happening around you, but you are still managing to live One Day at a Time! I follow your progress even though you still live with your qualifier (so not similar stories), because I read so much good growth from you!
I relate to this post b/c I remember living in that "Someday" thinking for many, many years. "When AH gets better I'll... OK, I've stated my boundary, when he does this, I can do that..."
I've said things like this for too long!
For what it's worth, I don't think you sound callous. I am finding that it is better to not worry too much about what others think of us (if at all!).
Peace to you, my friend!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thank you Lyne for your service and the daily. Thanks to all for your shares and ESH. I am also one who, like the writer, put many things 'on hold' waiting for others to change. I honestly did not realize that I could change me in the middle of the mess, and find peace, joy, sanity and serenity no matter what others were / were not doing.
The program gave me the tools. My sponsor led me forward gently. And, without even realizing it, I feel like I came out of the dark and into the light. This does not mean I don't find sadness on my journey, or my path is without speed bumps and detours. Instead what it means is when 'life' happens, I find my courage through my HP and this program, and progress through whatever it is. As we say often around here, we are either moving forward or slipping backwards - there is no coasting with this disease.
So grateful for the chance to 'have a do-over' of sorts. I hope everyone is enjoying the extra day and happy Labor Day to those in the states!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you for your service today lyne. This hit home with me today. Waiting, waiting, waiting, for others to be well, to change, putting my life on hold when that accomplishes nothing but a great sense of dissatisfaction and wasted days!
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