The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
,this writer speaks about how a stonecutter strikes a rock 99 times without a crack on the surface,then on the 100th blow the stone splits in two,it wasn't the final blow that did the trick but all that had gone before.
same is true with alanon recovery,whatever I'm struggling with ,learning to detach,or excepting that alcoholism is a desease ,
pit may seem I'm wasting my time with no results in sight,but if I continue doing what I'm suppose to be doing thus going to meetings,reading cal,sharing about my struggle,taking it one day at a time and being patient with myself,I may awaken to find that I have changed overnight,i have the acceptance,detachment,or serenity I've been seeking,
the results may have revealed themselves abruptly,but I know that all those months of faith and hardwork made the changes possible.
i may not see the results today,but I can trust that I am making progress.
"Try to be patient with yourself and your family .
it took along time for the disease of alcoholism to affect each and every one and it may take a long time for everyone to recover"
i have just experienced this as I have become tired of trying and trying to no results,
im learning a im still a work in progress,I have faith lots of faith in knowing that one day I will get to where I'm going,to where I need to be......................LU
This is one of my favorite reads and its pulled me thru many moments of despair and frustration..it keeps me going from meeting to meeting in those moments i Feel i am getting nowhere. Thanks for sharing and reminding us once again to keep coming back. no matter what ..
Good Morning LU and MeTwo2 I do love this page as it assures me that program is a process and if I keep coming back, I too can experience the "Miracle"of which this page speaks. I read this page early in my alanon journey and kept coming back, as suggested. It paid off!!! I have reached the level of serenity and courage of which it speaks and life is more manageable . thanks for your service
Thank you Lu for your service, and Me22 and Betty for your ESH.
I like the reminder that it is a process... it's not meant to be "done" in one time frame. That perhaps you never stop evolving!
Enjoy your Saturdays, everyone!
__________________
"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
Thanks LU and for all the shares. It's truly a matter of patience and practice, and then progress gets revealed in HP's time, not ours. It's like magic, or a miracle, but certainly a blessing. All my attention to program eventually shows me it's been well worth it. And yes I have setbacks, and not everyday is wonderful, but when I look at the entire picture, it's all good! Lyne
I can relate. It seemingly changed overnight but it was a process for sure. Of course I still have many difficult days but they are less often and I dont board the crazy train for the whole ride any longer . I can stop and get off and refresh myself whenever I like.
Thank you LU for the daily and your service. Thanks to all above for the ESH & shares. I had to accept that recovery is a process just as I had to accept that alcoholism is a disease. I did not get sick overnight and I will not recovery overnight. A part of me felt relief that there was no deadline, grade or expected 'perfect program' in recovery. Another part of me wanted to feel better/be well super fast as I'd been in pain for so very long.
I love that the reading reminds us that each of us recovers at our own pace and each person deals with life and pain differently. I am certain this is one of many reasons why we don't recommend advice - each of us is designed to be imperfect on our own journey and nobody knows what's best for another.
I do believe that my HP does want me happy, joyous and free. It's my job to take the action that results in that. Letting go and letting God serves me well when I begin to feel my ego/will returning. Happy Saturday all - had a long run this morning, been to my meeting, had a long talk with my sponsor and got a roast in the crock pot - an easy/low-key day for me! Nap is next - enjoy your day!!
__________________
Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks for your service, LU, and all the shares. I really like this reading and the stonecutter analogy... I can also see some of that in action in myself, as some things that used to be problems have "resolved themselves", I've noticed it with some small attitude issues of mine that use to be there and seem to have gone away.
