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Hello AnnY. I remember rolling my eyes when my then AH told me he was having his last drink. That was over 20 years ago so looks like my RAH has found the Strength, Hope and Courage to not only talk the talk he learned to walk the walk. This has been and is his program. I just stay in my own lane working my own program.
Hey there AnnY - in moments like this where my own mind wants to wonder, project, plan and more, I try as best I can to just stay present and pray. One never knows what is coming and when I stay on my side of the street and try to stay in the now, things roll better. Sending you (((hugs)))...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
My A said she had stopped drinking many, many times. I think at the one moment in time that those words came out of her mouth, she thought she would. But it wasn't until she entered a program that she truly did stop. She now has almost one sober year, but her program is for a different addiction. So although she is not drinking anymore , she hasn't healed, changed, learned about herself and her drinking. Almost a year later, she is now just thinking about AA. I'll take it anytime, but I don't count on anything. My sponsor advised me years ago not to have expectations . I do my best to follow that advice, Lyne
When this happened to me...I tried to focus on me and not let my mind, expectations, disappointments, or whatever, wander and create scripts in my mind. I focused on me and what I needed to do. I made sure I was in a place of acceptance...but I didn't have to analyze or rationalize all of the things I was accepting. I accepted, I surrendered to what i was feeling...and then it didn't consume me, and I was able to let it go.
I didn't get caught up in whether or not she meant it, was it rock bottom, how long it would last, keeping her busy, happy, etc. -- none of it. I didn't have expectations. I didn't have disappointments. I checked my motives. I just let it all go...and I was happy and healthy.
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
