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The C2C reading January 30 speaks about interacting with the disease of alcoholism and discovering that there are no rules and that things can change from moment to moment. As a result, we tend to mistrust everybody and grab at every opportunity without thinking.
The reading points out that we need to slow down and live one day at a time and then we can make choices of what feels right for us today rather than what we feel we might lose in the future. We can think before we react.
Remember that" easy does it." and if we still unable to do something today, remember that there will be another opportunity - it does not have to be now or never. We must remember that we don't have to be limited by our own fears. Instead we can do what seems right by intelligently considering our options and praying for guidance.
. The quote is from Ralph Waldo Emerson; "there is a guidance for each of us by lowly listening we shall hear the right word. Place yourself in the middle of the stream of power and wisdom which flows into your life. Then, without effort, you aren't held to truth and to perfect contentment."
I know that I am in the middle of a similar situation. My will wants me to kick back and say no no. I can't/will not do this and I don't want to-- praying for knowledge of HP's will and the power to carry it out has allowed me to remain detached and to let go and let God. I will let you know the outcome
Do not want to sound mysterious here but many years ago the person I have been seeing for 30 years and I agreed to the fact that "Some day " he would move into my apartment . It is now that "some day' and my resistance is huge. I have said that HP always has new lessons for me and that I cannot simply sit and say I do not need to grow . One day at a time I can keep showing up with program and trust the process
Good morning, MIP! Betty, thanks for your service.
Today's reading is an interesting one for me. I know the feeling of "now or never" well, it is something I heard often as a child, and was solidified for me when I lost my partner unexpectedly in my early 20's. I decided that I had to embrace every moment and every opportunity, because who knows how long I would be here or whether it would come again? That mentality helped me to get over my fears and take advantage of great opportunities. It also led me into a few relationships and decisions that just didn't feel "right". Today, I am trying to slow down, to enjoy each day for what it brings, and to listen to my inner voice when I am faced with a decision. I ask myself if a decision doesn't feel right because of unrealistic fears, or if it doesn't feel right because I am not ready. If I am not ready, then I give myself permission to wait, and trust that what is meant to be will fall into place without my forced assistance.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
((((Betty)))) I'm so happy for you!! Thank you for the ESH!
Mine is not nearly as thrilling and in fact pretty boring. I am applying this today to yet another visit to the dentist tomorrow. Yesterday was not great. Trying to figure out the who's and how's in the area of dentistry needed......one dentist cannot take care of the issues...its going to take 2......it's been overwhelming. In fact, it's been messing with my head the closer the appt gets. My last 2 dental experiences were horrid. One resulted in nerve damage and continual whistling in my ear, the other was wasted money and no fix......then add the pain.....uhg!
As I went to bed last night and prayed, the distrust and fear eased a bit....this morning I was able to do a calm search and dig into the reviews and backgrounds of some of the dentists in my area. The reading nails it in every area. Yes there is still nervousness but I am finding it easier to let go and let God.
Good morning all. Thank you for the ESH and shares ladies. Thank you also Betty for the daily and your service. I'm in the 'Easy Does It' mode of mind this week as I know me well enough that when I am emotional, it's not the best time to make any decisions! I feel very grateful that HP really doesn't give me more than I can handle and that even when I don't understand why, I have hope in looking for lessons as this practice has served me well.
Oh (((Betty))) - I am so set in my ways and love my structure that small changes can give me cause and pause. I admire your willingness and commitment to trusting the program and process and am hopeful you'll 'get there' where ever there is.
Happy Tuesday to one and all. It's still cold here, but is supposed to warm up a bit this afternoon and tomorrow the 'better day' of the week. Make it a great day all.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
This reading applies and it does not. Where it applies (and I shared this in another post) is that I am basically distrustful of everyone but my parents. I have learned over the years, that what I see, or what I'm told is not always accurate, so in order to not get hurt, I just assume the worst. I have always figured that when "they" do let you down, then you will have the mindset of, "Yea, figured... no big deal, move on." And when it turns out well, I am overjoyed. Like I said in the other post, it keeps me from being caught "off guard." However, it doesn't lessen the pain. Oddly enough, I don't consider myself a pessimist. I think deep down I am an optimist...I would like to think the good about everyone! Lately I have been trying to embrace a saying I read..."Those thinking the glass is half-full or half-empty are missing the point... the glass is REFILLABLE!"
Where this reading doesn't apply is that I am NOT someone who jumps into things. I plan. Then I may make a plan about my plan. LOL! My problem with this is that I think TOO MUCH. This can allow my FEAR to raise it's head and negatively affect the outcome.
Working this program is helping me to see that I can trust some people. It is really helping me curb my fears. It has also helped me to realize that most of what I did in the past was based on fear. Always fear. I am learning to move past my fear... even if the road is unknown at this time. I can pause where I am and REFILL my cup!
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
