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I haven't posted in a while. I have been no contact with my alcoholic for 3 months and he died tonight. I'm so sad. I still loved him but just could not live with the disease any longer, it was destroying me, but now I wish I could have stuck it out a bit longer to get to sy goodbye.
Sorcha turn him over to your Higher Power and remember the 3 Cs.... you didn't cause his disease, could not control it and were not able to cure it. Will hang with you in this with prayer for him. ((((Hugs))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Tuesday 31st of October 2017 11:03:15 PM
Sorcha, I am sorry for your loss & your grief. Give yourself extra care. You and your loved one will be in my prayers tonight.
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
He is at peace with something that was a demon in this life to live with and that is not your fault on any way.
I had to let go of the fact that whatever happens to the people I love and care for I am not in control of their life choices and whatever consequences come from those issues.
Hugs S
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Faith minus vulnerability and mystery equals extremism. If you've got all the answers, then don't call what you do "faith". - Brene Brown
"Whatever truth you own doesn't own you" - Gary John Bishop
When I find I have things left unsaid, I write a letter. Then, I burn it. I like to think that the flames and the ashes carry my message to where it needs to be.
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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
((Sorcha))) I am so very sorry to read of your grief. I understand the pain of loss around this dreadful disease and found that attending al anon meetings, sharing and receiving the support of people who understand "as few others can" extremely helpful. Sending positive thoughts and prayers .
(((Sorcha))) - I too am so sorry for your loss. Be gentle with you and know that we're sending positive thoughts and prayers your way. Huge (((hugs))) too...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
