The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
So now that we've agreed to divorce, AH and I are actually communicating better than we did as a 'married' couple. We've been having peaceful conversations about what we hope to accomplish in mediation (only talking when he hasn't been drinking). The thing I feel weird about is that he doesn't seem to feel ANYTHING about moving out and how that is going to affect the kids. I know that that's what alcoholics do, right? Numb themselves? I was pondering this for a while and then it hit me that I cant decide how he should feel. I can decide what I'm going to do to support the kids emotionally and spiritualily. Thank heaven for program tools. every day I strip away a little bit of my addiction to my AH and see myself more clearly.
What powerful program work you are doing! And what a fantastic example of focusing on yourself and what you are going to do!
Keep coming back, keep working the program. It looks great on you!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Love your share Beth! I see tons of awareness, acceptance and action. Keep working it - it looks great on you. Sending you positive thoughts and prayers!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Great share, Beth! You are using the tools... reminds me to use them too!
PNP
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"The wolf that thrives, is the one you feed." - Cherokee legend
"Hello, sun in my face. Hello you who made the morning and spread it over the fields... Watch, now, how I start the day in happiness, in kindness." Mary Oliver
And it might also be a bit early to talk about divorce. What was suggested to me and what also worked was to wait 2 years for every year of marriage before getting the divorce. One of the reasons I learned was that the negative thoughts, feelings and emotions were young and strong and I needed to keep myself at arms length from them and that I also work with a plan for being fair, honest and just with my dealings. That one worked miracles. It wasn't perfectly my way and I was able to treat her honestly like I would want myself to be treated with or without an alcoholic/addict. My lawyer got a lesson which was also interesting.
Keep coming back. (((((hugs)))))
-- Edited by Jerry F on Wednesday 4th of October 2017 10:29:43 PM
-- Edited by Jerry F on Wednesday 4th of October 2017 10:30:24 PM
