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a4l


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So a casual acquaintance has dropped a visitor to my literal doorstep. Poor kid has a mild intellectual disability plus alcoholism. Quite what I'm supposed to do for and with said kid is beyond me. 29 is not exactly a kid. I'm tempted to call his mother. Gah! Right. Needed to express. He's harmless enough, but I'm torn between desire to help and urge to sweep house. Gah!!

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((A41))) maybe you can suggest an AA meeting and then dinner after. I found that HP does have a sense of humor.

Love your new avataraww  Is that a bat or a  flying squirrel?



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LOL Betty...good suggestion.....AA meet then dinner.....Hey A41, yea, what is that avator???? cute little critter

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Thanks Betty. Ladies, I believe it is a sugar glider, a type of bat. My girls are all obsessed with bats at the moment and I just loved this picture so much. It sometimes feels like life is exactly like that! In terms of the visitor, yes, that's what we are going to do. Dinner and a meeting. Like most alcoholics I know he has a resilience. Yet the disability is kind of pulling my mother strings. I think he's hanging out at pubs to make friends! And caught a nasty disease in the process. Guess I can show him an alternative to pub friends and then ring his mother so I'm not worried about where this kids sleeping tonight.

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a4l - that's a cool looking critter - I love the avatar! Sending you and your guest positive thoughts and prayers. Two things popped into my brain - attraction vs. promotion and carrying the message and not the alcoholic. HP always has a sense of humor in my world - so it appears...(((Hugs)))

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((A41))) cute critter---Good Luckwith your visitor






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Iamhere, inward groan of recognition @ the truth of those two things. Yes. Carry the message. THE END!! Thank you my darling.

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(((Hugs))) - you got this sister....you got this!!

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That's a gift and what a lucky man to land on your doorstep. I suggest aa meeting and see how it goes.x

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I would not.suggest anything 

I am one of those people who give first regret later. 

I am open to giving in a very restricted way.  I give in different. ways every day. 

I know where an interaction like this can go. 

These days I can have compassion.  My boundaries have to be ironclad 

 

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I put him up for the night, loaned him a copy of the big book, and wrote out numbers for AA and a men's shelter for intoxicated men. Now he's in Gods hands. I know alcoholics are resilient. I always think of my own sons when I meet other peoples. I'm looking at some mother's bundle of joy. This kids got a nice home and a loving mum. Its up to him now to make some choices outside of bloody Facebook lol. Thank you all for the support.

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Still always feel like I'm banging my head against a wall with this disease to some extent. The urge to be of my version of help, which is basically assimilate to my views or get out of my house. Lol. Hope he'll be alright. I told him in no uncertain terms what a comedown the shelter would be, locked in for the night and turfed out at 5.30 am, that if he comes back here that's where I'll be dropping him off and basically to drop any illusions that his current life path will magically lead to any different result. Sometimes I feel like a general.

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((A41)) I so understand-- You did well and treated him with courtesy and respect

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(((a4l))) - so agree with Betty - you did great. Sending prayers up that just for today, the message has been delivered and received...

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