Hi. I have been reading everyone's posts and find them so helpful. This has been a rough few days. As I shared before I moved out from my home leaving AH at home. He has been telling me for 3 weeks now that he is ready to give up the drugs and alcohol. He wants to come stay with me, the house is rented only till the end of the month so he has to move somewhere by the 1st. Yesterday I stopped t see him and he got aggressive with me so I left after being there 10 minutes. Spoke to him later in the day and he is paranoid. On the roller coaster. Today tells me he is done again and ready for me to come get him. I go by after work, help him pack and clean. Just as we are about to load the truck he says give me money,. This will be the last time he ask for it. I calmly said NO. I won't be part of that behaviour and won't support him if he does that. He yells and tells me to leave and never to return. So I go. I know where he is mentally and that he is sick. I just can't enable him anymore. I think I said what I meant and hopefully didn't say it mean, but I am sure he didn't take it that way because he didn't get what he wanted. It is so hard to detach and just say it is the disease. He is making choices and will tell me he has more recovery than anyone he knows. And he can stop anytime. Denial is so hard to see when the person in denial blames you for what they are doing. Maybe this is wrong thinking but when a person is truly done with drinking/drugging nothing or no one can make them go back to it.. I have dual membership myself, been there done that didn't pick up through all of this stress and relapse with AH. the person may have cravings but the spiritual principles of this program and AA/NA are there as long as the person is willing to work the program. I pray daily for my HP to help my AH. I don't have the emotional strength anymore to deal with the mood swings and threats. Today I am seeing And expressing my boundaries. Take what you like and leave the rest.