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It has been a long time since I posted about myself here at MIP so here is an update...
Next week I will complete my second year of studying person-centred counselling at University. I've loved the course and being in an environment full of learning and youth has invigorated my spirit. I even found time for a bit of student activism and went on a march for the first time in my life!
I've been learning to talk and listen with people who are kind and safe and thoughtful. My self-esteem and joy in the company of others has grown as a result. I've caught up with old friends who are scattered far and wide and I've started new friendships that mean a lot to me as well.
I will be returning home to join my husband in Italy soon (I'm a bit nervous about that, but will cope) and he says that he is proud of what I've been doing btw. I intend to spend the next year playing and painting in the countryside (there is only so much introspection that I can put up with and my course has had plenty of that as well!). When I'm ready, probably next year, I plan to continue with my final year of study so that I can qualify professionally before I reach my official retirement age (no intention of retiring any time soon though!).
I have shown myself that I can live happily on my own, and that I'm not alone if I stay open to new relationships. I've learn that I enjoy, and indeed need, to spend time with other people and that I can not only walk in beautiful countryside any time I like but that I can walk away from insanity and really make the most of it at any time I want.
I had my doubts and nerves when I set out on this course a year ago but I'm so pleased that I did it. I don't think I'll put my life on hold for anyone again any time soon. I hope that I don't sound smug, but I am pleased with myself and feel happy - I just wanted to share some of my good news here at MIP because you all helped me so much when I thought my world (and sanity) was over and I didn't know which way to turn. (((((LovingHugs)))))
Lovely, lovely share! Congratulation on all your efforts - academically as well as personally....hoping your break continues to bring you peace and joy!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
MW it kinda sorta sounds like you arrived at that place I did too...the place where you can say to the alcoholic/addict..."I love you and I like having you here and I don't need you". I learned a new reality and new language which I still speak today in recovery. Please keep coming back to share your ESH with us. ((((hugs))))
