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Hi, i am very new to all of this my younger sister is an A and it had gotten pretty bad the first of the year, another seizure this one at work so i had heard that a local hospital had a rehab center and they could not turn you away if you didn't have insurance so she did a 3 day in house then some AA and mandatory SATOP classes and was doing good and has recently fallen off the wagon and its very scary for me to see she has a lot of depression issues and insecurities and drinks to mask it but she just sits in her room and drinks and cries so its heart breaking, i was hoping she would be willing to go back to the detox rehab but she is "not ready" i have read so many posts on this website that have helped me today remember this is not in my control and i thank all of you for being brave and posting for others like me to see...
my aunt and her friends (my mom has passed, another reason for her depression, and my dad doesnt want to make her upset so he makes sure she wont drive but isnt much more help with boundaries, etc) say i need to tell her she has to go back or else, but i am not sure what else there is, she does better when she lives with me but knows my dad would never kick her out so she has that safe spot to land but my question is is there any place i can look for resources for people with no insurance for a longer term rehab that wont break the bank? i have tried to look but its a little overwhelming, i have also looked into outpatient and they are not cheap but more reasonable... anyway any advice would be wonderful and again thanks to everyone who posted their fears and experiences and bravery it really calmed me down today...
Hi Jennifer You are a kind and loving sister. I suggest that you call the AA hotline in her community They helped me have my hubby admitted several years ago The subject of money did not even surface.
Please search out alanon fact to face meetings for yourself. The support is important .
Welcome to MIP Jennifer - glad you found us and glad that you posted. Betty's suggestion is exactly what I would consider - each community has different resources available around here but the local AA office typically has the most up to date resources available. I recently had a situation where my son, homeless, unemployed and released from jail wanted help. He was too sick for in-patient treatment straight up and too well for the detox unit. It's a rough situation, but AA members sat with him for 48 hours and then helped him get into a sober living place. He's got rules, structure, chores and expectations if he wants to continue to live there....so far, it's working out - one day at a time.
I too recommend finding local Al-Anon meetings. In my own recovery through Al-Anon, I've been able to support him without enabling him. Al-Anon gave me back my own center and serenity as well as restored me to some level of insanity caused by living with this disease.
Please keep coming back - you are not alone and there is hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you so much i didnt think to call my local AA community, i will do that and i am hoping to go to a face to face Al-alon meeting this week! she told me she would go to the rehab/detox tomorrow (i think she needs medically monitored due to her seizure history) i pray she is serious but if not its out of my control so all i can do is make sure she knows i am here for her.
Hello jenk,
Welcome to MIP. That is good that your sister is agreeing to detox. The hospital might be able to give her mental health referrals, they usually have social workers too.
Let us know how the meeting goes Jennifer - sending you positive thoughts for getting you to your local support!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
