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My Husband missed family Easter last weekend with his family. Yes missed get togethers since last 4th of July. Including our daughters birthday in December bc he was too drunk to wake up. His family knows but don't really acknowledge it. His sister called me yesterday to see if they needed to an intervention. I told her I didn't think it would help because he's aware they all know and he knows he has a problem. I said in thought it would just make things worse for me at home. Some how he found out I talked to her. He called me today while I'm at work completely irate. He said I should know better the. To talk anyone about it. Are you kidding? I didn't call her. I didn't tell her anything she didn't already know and I told her I thought it was a bad idea. I was in tears at work. I don't know how much more of this I can deal with. Our kids don't need this. I just can't. I'm just heartbroken for the person he used to be and that this is the life I've been dealt. I feel like if I left it wouldn't help anything at all and would actually make him drink more. Ugh Lord help me
My AS would miss all holiday's or get together with family because of his drinking. I finally realized it wasn't because he didn't want to but because he was very very sick.
No one I mean no one like me can take it until we learn to take care of ourselves. The sayings in Al-anon do have meaning and it took me a long long time to realize what they truly meant.
So now during this time in my life I can cope and continue to live my life and find some happiness.
It takes time so use that time to learn and let go with love.
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Hi yes "this is reallife", while interacting with the disease of alcoholism. Please do search out alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend. You are not alone. Alanon offers new tools to live by and a supportive network who understand as few others can. There is help and hope
Holidays can be really hard for people in families with alcoholics. I missed some holidays because of my A ex-bf. He usually was hungover and in a bad mood so I would just stay home. The holiday would have just turned into an argument. Now, I only rely on myself and my holidays have been very nice the past couple of years. Alanon is a great way to learn new coping skills so you focus on making your life the best. Instead of devoted all your energy to the insanity of the disease. Glad you are here, Keep coming back.
