I don't know if this will help or not so please disregard and I apologize if this is the wrong thing.  I went to a grief workshop after my mother died.  One woman there had lost her daughter.  And she had Buddhist training and one of the workshop leaders was a Buddhist.  So the woman said, "Buddhism teaches that everything is an illusion, that the distinction between me and you is an illusion, and the world is an illusion, and everything.  So if everything is an illusion, why I am so devastated at the loss of my child?"  And the leader said, "A child is the most wonderful illusion of all."  I don't know if this is a help but somehow I went with the idea that the workshop would help me "do" my grief the right way, and it sort of told me that there is no right way or obligation to be on it.  Regardless of whether this is helpful or not I send you so much love.

I am so so sorry for you and your son. My prayers and positive thoughts are on their way.

(((Cathy))) I do believe that our loved ones communicate with us from the other side and you aren't nuts or crazy, your son was trying to comfort you. The night before my Mom passed she asked me if I heard the birds outside. I said no Mom it's nighttime now and they are all asleep. She took my hand and squeezed it very hard and said "You must listen for the birds Dear." Sadly Mom unexpectedly passed the next day. During the services at the ceremony as I was passing out roses to each of her grandchildren to place on her casket 2 doves flew between me and the minister right over my parents gravesites. I thought I was just imagining them but after the service several people mentioned the doves as well as many starlings chirping in the trees. I saw it as a message from Mom that she was now with Dad again and letting me know that she was okay through the birds.

Your son friended me on facebook also Cathy, so on my birthday, I will think of him too. I like to think those who have passed are part of my HP now. He will help me stay sober.