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I am sure that had to be difficult, but it sounds like you are relying on your higher power and allowing him the opportunity to find his (reminds me of today's ODAT)...Glad you were able to put your trust in the program! Hang in there, we're with you in thought and prayer
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
That's the hard one right there. You are being so strong allowing him the dignity to help himself. This is truly let go let God. Hang tight he's right where he should be.
I remember very vividly this agony with similar texts, v mails...What helped me stay on my path were the ODAT slogan (or an hr at a time) & Let Go Let God truly placing him visually in HP's care. I would look at clock and say I can do this for next hr. As a Mom that was hard to do but I was able to do it with the support of these wonderful ppl in the rooms and lots of meetings.
Another tool: I actually used to text from my cell phone to an email account I had made just for this purpose (an E-God-Box) "HP, I place____ in your care for healing blessing and guidance- I will trust in the ultimate outworking of Good-help me walk by faith and not by sight from now until noon"... then I would do it again at noon and then again later as needed. It really helped me to do this physical act in order to release it mentally and then I could function for a few hrs. at a time.
Sending prayers for both of you---Nurture yourself with extreme self care dear one!
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Wishing all the best on your recovery journey, Luv
(((Hugs))) - I too am sending you tons of positive support and prayers. God has got this - I believe deeply...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
((Tannersmom)) I have said the serenity prayer over and over again in my head when my thoughts about AD became to much to bear on my own. My prayers to you and your son.
Tannersmom,
I too understand your suffering, and I hope you can feel the hug I am sending out to you. Operating on our own power this is overwhelming and too much to bear. But relying on our HP to strengthen and uplift us and protect our children until that time they return to sanity is the only way through. My therapist helped by saying if I knew where my son was, I could bring him a sandwich, but by no means was he allowed to come home, even for dinner or a shower. It was tough, I looked for him everywhere, and he was never there to find. He figured his own way. And he is okay now. Don't lose hope.
(((((hugs)))))
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Bethany
"Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be." Abe Lincoln
