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Today's reading is about decisions, trying to understand our HPs will for us, and paying attention to inward signs about whether we are making choices which are good and healthy for us. In the reading the following statement is quoted: 'Without God, man cannot; without man, God will not.' The writer asserts that our HP is looking for the actions we take and will be with us along all of our steps.
I struggle all the time w keeping my own will out of the way and paying attention to what my hPs plan is for me. I also have looked for the demonstrative 'signs' about decisions I've made along the way, so the section of this reading that suggests paying attention to what is happening on the inside for us resonates with me. Do I feel anxious, unsure, unmoored? Or do I have a sense of calm and peace? The word that came to me this past weekend in prayer was - 'Listen'. I am doing my best to listen to what my HP is telling me and to listen to what my insides are telling me as well.
Good Morning Mary Love this principle. My sponsor did tell me that HP "did not speak in code "so when I was confused over a certain action,to simply pray about it and he answer would become clear. I now know when I make an informed decision and follow though that if it runs smoothly and it falls easily into place i am in HP's iwlll.
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Happy Tuesday all - thank you Mary for your service and the daily. Thanks to both of you for your ESH on this matter. I freely admit I don't do 'wait' well! I've been working on this the entire time of my recovery and it has greatly improved. When I am faced with decisions and have any uncertainty or feel pressure from external forces, I am always reminded of When in Doubt, Don't.
I heard early on this is a great tool to remind myself that there is a plan for me and when it becomes clear, I'll know that HP has lit up the path for my next best step. I also love having like-minded program friends and a sponsor because when I am truly stuck and unsure, talking it out with others helps me process and hear other ideas I had not yet considered.
I used to see indecisiveness as a weakness in myself and others. I now consider it a great tool in my program. I am grateful for recovery and how it's helped me see, be and respond differently. Make it a great day - (((hugs)))...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I think I am done with my AH of 26 years but the thought of having to move out of my home and blow up the marriage is terrifying. This reading and post are repeating what I keep hearing. When its the right time, you will know. Wait for a sign. In the meantime I just wait probably for the next inevitable incident to occur.
I have been where you are and know how difficult the decision is to go forward and walk away from a long marriage (mine was 22 years, with three children). There are still days that it is difficult--and I have now been divorced for almost three years! But I agree that we do "know" when the time is right or not. The first time I met with a lawyer she asked me my now exHs name and I burst out crying. I left there telling her I was not ready--about three months later I went back and I was and I do know it was the right decision for me and my kids.
I'm sending you lots of support and strength and also know first hand that the program will continue to help every step of the way.
Fell asleep last night remembering that I was born and raised into this disease and that, I believe, DNA natural to me. As far back as I can remember I have reacted to life as if I had a mental, emotional, physical and spiritual illness and so Dec 1941 (conception) to Sep 1942 I was perfect victim as it was inserted into my being. I was born angry and oppositional which has been the most constant characteristic in my life that I work and live the program with and for. With the program and it's miraculous benefit in and on my life. Living this program is a daily effort and practice so that I can also create change when I go back no matter the reason. Thanks for the post Mary. I practice smiling like that...makes me feel healed. ((((hugs))))
