The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have always struggled with staying in the present, I always plan for the future. Wether it be next month or three years from now. I don't start thinking from the beginning, I start thinking about the end result. I've noticed if I don't have a plan in place I get anxious.
I'd say this need for control stems from my A Mother and the 8 placements I had before I turned Nine. I'm thankful to God for bringing my foster mother into my life when I was Nine, she has been by my side for the last 14 years and into the future. She's always been my constant.
I just realised it's a year to date tomorrow that I started going to face to face meeting.
From today I'm putting One Day at a Time into action.
Great share Miss A. I too struggle with staying in the moment as I live in the wreckage of tomorrow (something I read in one of the literature books). I was always trying to predict tomorrow and the worst case scenario so I wouldn't be hurt/disappointment if things didn't go my way. Just wanted to say you are not alone. I too passed the one year mark a few months ago. I thank god that I found al-anon when I did.
I too send warm welcomes to you MissA - so glad you found us and glad you joined right in. For me, practicing One Day at a Time and other Al-Anon tools really help me with anxiety over what may happen tomorrow. Please keep coming back - there is hope and help in recovery!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene