The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I feel like I am making a shift. At first I was trying things out - I went to one meeting, read one book, I decided to run one 5k race, I tried some new strategies with people in my life - setting healthy boundaries and reaching out for connection. All low risk "experiments"
It has all been so positive, and deeply rewarding. I feel as if each of those small things has built towards a great transformation in me. And now I feel it is time to cement some more permanent change - make a commitment to alanon, invest in my fitness and mental health, and deep dive into my recovery. I am so grateful for the journey I am on, and my alanon family helping me along the way.
There is something green and tender growing in my heart, the unfolding of my recovery is a beautiful surprise to me which fills me with gratitude.
Great share girl....I love where you've gone and where you're going! I recall committing to recovery just to 'see' if it could work for me. Once I got a taste of peace, I was 'all in'. I have never regretted putting me first, and detaching with love from situations/people I have no control over.
This week, I held tight to boundaries with both of my boys. Usually, this results in temper tantrums, drama and the silent treatment for an unknown extended period of time. Instead, I just spoke my truth kindly and calmly and held tight to my position. I am shocked and happy to report for the first time in 10 years, each of those phone calls ended with them saying, "I Love You"....
This is a miracle for our family. We never learned to communicate well as a family. We spoke over each other, had to be right and would fight/argue our points with extreme passion. Nobody ever listened to another - we were always too busy making our point and puffing out our chests. Finally, after a long time in recovery, a conversation went as normal as it can for us.
They both wanted something that I was not comfortable with. It doesn't matter what, the point is I said No. They pushed their point, and I countered. It was calm on my end and there was no waffling by me. This program has given me more than it promised and I am forever grateful. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks for your words of support
I'm still so new to this journey and focusing on the first three steps, but I can feel the changes in me. I'm excited to see where this process takes me.
I'm still so new to this journey and focusing on the first three steps, but I can feel the changes in me. I'm excited to see where this process takes me.