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Hi, My name is Megan. I am 26 years old and I need your help. Years ago after my oldest son passed away I became addicted to methamphetamine, cocaine and alcohol. I've been sober from methamphetamine and cocaine for 6 years. I met my fiance 2 years ago. He had gotten his 5th dui shortly before we met. He been on a scram bracelet, house arrest and had to attend meetings. Then life changed we had a few set backs as everyone does and we both started drinking heavily. However I noticed we were drinking everyday for a year. It needed to end. I have been sober completely from alcohol for 2 weeks. He however is not. He is 6'1 ,125 lbs and drinks at least 5-6 25oz bud light tall boys daily until he literally passes out. He has a very good job and works very hard. I'm terrified. I know why I was drinking and why I needed to quit. I did. I was also a huge enabler as well. Since I've been sober his drinking increased quite a bit. I don't know what to do. I desperately will take any help I can get. I love this man so much but he is literally withering away before my eyes. Please , please help him, help me, help us.
-- Edited by KennyFenderjazz on Thursday 27th of October 2016 10:44:07 AM
Hi MrsOConnor welcome. Living with the disease of alcoholism is extremely painful. I suggest that you search out alanon face to face meetings in your community and attend. The hot line number is in the white pages. Alcoholism is a chronic, progressive, disease over which we are powerless. Alanon meetings helped me break the isolation caused by living with the disease and provided many new tools to live by so that I could regain my self esteem and confidence. There is hope and help, Please keep coming back.
Do know that there is nothing you can do to cure or control your fiance, just as you didn't cause his alcoholism. Definitely search out a face to face Al Anon meeting, and keep coming back here. Your best bet to help him is to help yourself, you made the first step by becoming sober again, the next step would be to find an Al Anon meeting to keep working on yourself.
I don't see any words above - was the post removed?
Any ways - welcome to MIP!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks Kenny for your help on this! I didn't know if perhaps the member came back and deleted or what might have happened.
I send you positive thoughts and prayers. I also encourage you to seek out support from local Al-Anon meetings/fellowship. When my life and mind were spinning out of control, this was the only suggestion that worked to bring me calm, peace of mind and support that truly understood.
Please keep coming back - there is hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
