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Hello Group, I have been purposely giving my recovering alcoholic some space. Tonight I gave in and engaged. We had a great meaningful conversation. So meaningful he opened up to me more than he has in a bit. He told me that he has been so busy going through the motions lately that he hasn't put much thought into where he is going from here. Where ever here is. His words. This of course makes me happy as he is recognizing that he is stuck and needs to take steps to move forward in his life. It also terrifies me. What if he does not see me as part of his future? What if moving forward or going somewhere from where he is includes me not being a part of his life. This grips me to my core. Do I believe I can live with out him? of course I do. But I have no desire to find out what it is like to not have him in my life.
Fierce - It's understandable to have these fears. As we grow and change and heal, we can't be certain what our lies will be like afterwards. The same is true when our loved ones heal what they need to heal. It's a bit scary yes, but we have no control over another and their path to healing. It's great that he's chosen to think critically about his situation, is he in a program? Are you able to take care of yourself in the process? Thanks for your share and I wish you the best <3
Hey Fierce - I can relate to your fears....I am always reminded when my mind starts spinning that I can choose to stay in the here and now - today, at this time, this is my reality. Bringing my mind back to what's happening on this day only has helped me hugely in recovery. Keep coming back - there is hope and help in working the program, one day at a time!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
