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Maryjane's suggestion is what worked for me and still does in the first words of the first step...Admit I am powerless and then the 2nd step and the 3rd. You know how its done...prayers for you and your son. (((hugs)))
Sending you tons of Love, Support, Positive Energy and Prayers! One moment and one day at a time is how I roll when there is something 'in the air'. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
He was with his dad yesterday and he said my son fell and hit his head but it wasn't bad he thought. After that he said my son was extremely goofy and wanted to go home. Asked me to check up on him and now I can't get him on phone. I guess I need to go over to his house and see if he is OK.....I just don't want to find him drunk.
Friday he wasn't right either......slow and couldn't talk right. When I asked him if he was OK.....he just stared at me and said YOU THINK I"M DRINKING......Brings back fear and worry of two years ago.
Yep that's what I think but didn't say it to him.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
(((Cathy))) - take your HP and all of us with you if you decide to go. I am sorry for the fear and anxiety you have - I can relate and want you to know you are not alone. (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
HI Cathy, prayers for you and wishing your son well. Good to see you back here again. Don't make assumptions. You just never know what's going on, you know?
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Never grow a wishbone where your backbone ought to be!
I feel your pain Cathy....you have a right to remind him he'll lose everything he worked for mainly his sobriety.....then step back and keep in close contact with your HP linsc
Thank you everyone for your kind words. Yes he is drinking and he will lose it all. His job, home and his sobriety. He said in a text he doesn't know what to do. He can't withdraw. I was amazed how fast he went right back to the start. I think he will truly die this time.
I beat him down today and it hurts inside that I did that. He is right back to the same ole lie lie lie.....WOW I told him what he will lose many times over and now I will step back and let him go completely. I can't and won't see him as long as he drinks.
I do know what I need to do.....
((( hugs )))
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
He does know what to do. And I hope and pray he finds his recovery again today. You also know what you have to do, I am so bummed and sorry you have to repeat this over again. I hope you rise above this with Al-anon, Love and prayers to you Cathy, I feel you. You are not alone. linsc
He never had much recovery in the real world. I was praying the spiritual awakening he had in prison would last but I know it is hard without the daily reminder and self imposed structure of AA. I am sorry to hear this Cathy. I pray he finds his seat in AA. It baffles me why some suffer like this and try and battle alcoholism alone when it is next to impossible and they don't have to.
Cathy Loving you and standing with you and him also. This is the cunning, powerful and baffling part for you both and I fully agree with LinSC...he does know and has to duplicate what he first started doing. It works when you work it...pass that on and get out of his way so he and his HP can go forward. Stay within your own hula hoop. (((((hugs)))))
(((Cathy))) - sending positive thoughts and prayers your way too. We are with you and I too can relate to where you are. Trust HP and take care of you...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Im sorry to hear this Cathy. You do know what you need to do, you've done it before and so does he. Remember he has his own higher power and your not it. Wrap him up in a big fluffy blanket, put him in your God box and give him over to your higher power. Another tool may be to see the time you had with him sober as being a blessing and the seed has been planted within him so where there is life there is hope.x
I'm sorry (((cathy))) I know you're disappointed and especially worried. I hope he finds his way back. Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you and your son. TT
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Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.
(((Cathy))) - continued prayers to you. In our county, there is an adult detox center. I have dropped mine there a few times. They have limited space and move them in/out as fast as they can but they do get support in detoxing as well as assistance in finding inpatient services if desired. It does suck badly....
Sending you a PM with a link to some possible resources....know you are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
He lost his job today and the home he is renting belongs to a friend of mine. She has lived with an alcoholic for 12 year and knows full well what will happen. Will won't be able to pay the rent and then the police will be called in to evict him I'm sure.
He has 30 days because the rent is paid until November 1st. After that he has to get out and I will be the one to do it because of my friend. I don't want her to go though this.
Thank you Iamhere...I will go read your message now.
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Lord, put your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth
Speak only when you feel that your words are better than your silence.
Lots of things are happening now, and will progress as you already know. but IMPORTANT, take care of yourself, absolutely non of this is your fault. I know you are hurting and rightfully so, but please try to stay above it with Alanon. Your friend linsc.
